The one and only Clapping Game – routine

March 31, 2010 // 4 Comments »

Hi, you sexy mofo you!

We slammed together a little instructional video on The Clapping Game. A lovely little routine we have used a lot. It’s used to increase the girls buying temperature, get the kino going, leading and to have fun.

Introduce The Clapping Game with a little qualification allá:

Are you playful or are you a more serious and adult person?

I am playfuuuuuuuul! Hihihihhihihi!

Nice! Then I will teach you something funny. * Start clapping *

The funny thing is that others that may sit around the table also want to try, or even teach you another clapping game. When you have trained her up, it’s time for competition. Challenge her to a small bet. Bet a beer or a kiss or a three-day sheets marathon in your bed.

Well, with no further ado! Enjoy!

BTW: This video is in Norwegian. But don’t mind that. You will hear our beautiful voices, our wonderful language and you don’t need to hear what we say to see how the clapping game is done. You only need your eyes in this video.

Posted in Attraction, Routines

Openers/Conversational Starters (part 1/7)

March 29, 2010 // 5 Comments »

Hey hey, my fellow cockstars!

You will now get a series of posts about openers( conversational starters). I know I loved to read about openers when I first started out. Like the opener was the most important thing. You could say that it isn’t that important, it’s just an opener. But it is important, because it will influence your first impression. But it is what you make it. A great opener together with the right subcommunication like body language and such can make a women very attracted to you. The wrong opener could make the woman shoot you down ice cold.

As we say over and over again, what you say is not that important, it’s the way you say it. Still, I will give you some of my favorite openers in these posts.

And yes they are great! Of course they are great! You will get all the tools you need to open women right here!

Excited? You should be!

Some people prefer to use canned openers, others like to make them up on the fly.

I’ll give you some of both.

This first post will be about what I call The Natural Opener.

I have done a good deal of interviews with the best Norwegian pick up artists. Lars from a Norwegian pickup company Gode Vibber open women very naturally and that’s why i call it The Natural Opener. This opener is a very low key opener. It’s easy, and might be one of the best ways to open women, cause it’s so genuine and “normal”.

Another great thing about it is that I don’t have to do much work writing this down, just copy paste it right in for you! In Lars own words.

I asked Lars if he had any tips for guys who struggled with their opening game and since he wrote such a great answer I will give you the whole shablang. It’s pure gold.

The Natural Opener
You can open with anything as long as body language, voice, frame and context is good, but to kickstart those who struggle a bit I can dig a little deeper. I have been very active this last year trying to play the social norms to my advantage to minimize the possibilities for rejection, and my experience is that the best way to open, and the best tactic in the initial faze is to make it as easy as possible. “Hi, my name is <name>,” with a smile and to reach out my hand to shake hers. This kind of opener communicates “now we are going to get to know each other”, and is actually quite direct, but at the same time very innocent. A handshake is the official beginning of a conversation, so you “drag” her into a conversation with you. It would be rude of here to reject such an innocent and calibrated approach, and humans don’t like to stand out in a negative way. To further explain the “science” behind this:

A typical “The Game” PUA with 2 minute long openers, card tricks, advanced and time-consuming routines like “The Cube” and others, a way to peacocked style of clothes or other things that make him stand out a lot is more prone to rejections and congruence-test not only because it is socially acceptable for the girl to do it, but it is almost expected that she do it. Humans are, by nature, skeptical to everything that is different, so weirdoes and stand-outs are easy to shoot down and needs a lot of time to feel trust and comfort with. It’s the same with men that are drunk, sleazy, crude, vulgar and escalating way to uncalibrated. Girl are “not allowed” to be loose, or sluts, so no one would react negative if she rejects an stereotypical player or a stereotypical drunk Norwegian out on in a bar. Hun will also feel pressure to herself to reject those kind of people because of social norms and the danger of a slut-stamp.

I myself am a huge fan of a “confident nice guy” approach to girls. Compared to the example above, a guy who “fits in” after the normal standards of society and don’t stand out other then that he is confident and comfortable with the social pressure is harder to reject. To say hi to a girl og reach out your hand confidently, but nice and non-threatening is my favorite approach. Most people, also women, is nice and follow normal courtesy and manners. If she refuses to greet you then not only you, but everybody else, including her, will perceive her as impolite and socially uncalibrated. Its socially unacceptable and goes against all normal courtesy and manner to reject someone who hasn’t done anything “wrong”, someone who hasn’t given her a reason to reject him. You can get a long way by being the least possible “stereotypical pickup guy”. Those who say that most girls are bitchy and get a lot of negative responses are those who open and act in a way that gives the girls permission and reason to be bitchy.

If she shows any signs that she is going to turn around so ask a simple question so that she hears it, she will often feel obliged to answer. If she is about to walk away so talk a bit louder as if you are expecting her to stop and answer/continue the conversation. The questions don’t need to be more complicated then “do you live in the city”, “”are you studying”, “who are you out with” and so on. Normal courtesy and manners dictate that it is rude to interrupt or to walk in the middle of a conversation or a question, and I have noticed a lot of times that this can be exploited to pull them back inn if they are about to walk away. This is the part where strong intention comes in. The one with the strongest intentions will be the winner, that means that if your intention to stop and talk to a girl is stronger then that girls intention to go to the bathroom, to the bar, turn around to her friends and so on, then she will stop and respond to your approach. If I open a girl and she is on her way to leave, she can even tell me to my face that she is going back to her friends table, then I just ignore that sentence and keep on talking with a strong intention to continue the conversation. They stop in their tracks surprisingly often so you can continue, even in the middle of the street, as long as you “behave nicely”, and by that I mean to NOT give her a reason to eject.

This by being “normal” will minimize the chances to be rejected dramatically. I can’t remember the last time I got a negative response to my approach, and I am out every Friday and Saturday night talking to girls. The only things that reject me is bad timing like if she is talking to a friend she haven’t seen for years, if she is difficult positioned like sitting across a table while I am standing(hard to get in contact with), that she has a boyfriend or other external factors that I have no control over whatsoever. Pickup is about to stand out, but you need to stand out in a POSITIVE way, and you don’t need to do much to be considered a better catch than all those drunk monkeys that either throw themselves at the women or don’t even dear to approach them and only stare. By approaching in this way that I have just explained above you will get as much time as possible to show some personality and get her interested enough to keep on talking with you., preferably by getting her attracted to you. This is the best explanation I can make to explain the “be yourself” advice, to make it simple. It is by being your self you will meet women who you like that like you in return.

PS: To be used at getting a good response on your approaches is also the most effective and consistent way to reduce approach anxiety. Lots of good experiences = Used to good responses = Less fear of bad responses.

Ok guys, Lars is extremely reflected, his words are pure gold. I think you can actually bring this post to a goldsmith and get good money for it. If you do though, please give some of the money to Lars and me too. That’s just the fair thing to do you know.

You can read the next post in a couple of days. It’ll be my own Competition Opener.

Yours, Rockstar

Posted in Openers/conversational starters

Does pheromones really work?

March 25, 2010 // 6 Comments »

I don’t really know.

It is really interesting though. I have several friends who says pheromones definitely work and have an huge effect. They buy pheromones on a regular basis. I was very skeptical about it for a long time, blaming it on the placebo effect, cause it’s not very logical, is it?

But then again.

“Attraction is not a choice” – David Deangelo

Have you ever seen the interest a female dog on heat attracts?

A friends dog never ran away from home. Except when a bitch two blocks away were on heat. He would walk around their house restless and horny for hours. Howling and everything. Crazy.

Have you ever tried pheromones for cats? You spray the pheromones on something you want the cat to cuddle with, and what happens? The cat starts to cuddle! It’s crazy, but it works. I have tried this my self.

So one day I decided to try pheromones from a bottle a friend of mine, COCPORN, had. He means it works.  Like crazy! I didn’t go out that day, but my girlfriend Kristine said she got very horny around me. But then again, I usually have that effect on her At least I like to think so…

I believe it works, I really do, BUT I still think you need game to follow up the interest you get from girls. Or else every guy on the planet would get layed when ever he wanted to, with who ever he liked. And we all know that’s not happening. Not unless he’s reading my blog. Haha, I’m kidding. A bit.

Anyway. I have this product now. People say it’s the best pheromones out there. It’s a unique second generation pheromone, even stronger then before.

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• What if she FELT RELAXED around you and TRUSTED YOU?
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Sounds cool right?

Well, this is a product for the lazy guy. Too lazy to approach huh? Haha! Well, try it out.

They are so confident it’ll work that they even pay you back if you can’t get laid in 30 days!

Definetely worth a shot.

Click on the banner and you will find all the info you need. What pheromones is, why it works, reviews and so on. Really interesting.

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Don’t look at it as a magic pill and stop reading my blog now!

<3 Rockstar

(BTW, I would really love, if you have tried pheromones, that you leave me a comment and tell me about it)

Posted in Attraction, Does pheromones really work?

Inspirational secrets to success video

March 23, 2010 // 4 Comments »

Hey dudes and…and…chicks!

Got something really cool and inspirational for you.

This will take 15 minutes of your  life. And it might just change it. Drastically.

Check this videos out

Just so you know, soon, very soon I will start posting some posts about openers. If you like tips on how to start conversations with women you will get everything you need and a lot more in these articles.  Just pay attention. I reckon a couple of days.

Posted in Self help

Instructive interview with Ross Jeffries

March 20, 2010 // 11 Comments »

Oh BOY do I have a treat for you guys!

Oh boy oh boy oh boy…

I’m pretty excited about this. I sent a message to Ross a week ago and asked him if he would like to do an interview with me for you guys. You guessed it, he said YES!Not only yes, he would love to do it too!

For those of you who for some weird reason don’t know who this controversial person is; Ross Jeffries is the founder of Speed Seduction, a famous Seduction Guru and one of the main characters in Neil Strauss bestselling book “The Game”!

You know Darth Vaders famous quote “Luke, I’m your father”, well here’s another one for you; “Seduction community, I’m your father”. Hehe, he hasn’t said it himself, point is, Ross Jeffries STARTED the whole seduction community. Cool? Yes!

Find out how Ross approach women. What does he think about “The Game”?  What’s his top three advice and more in this interview.

Are you ready for this? READY FREDDY?!?

I had a little party at my house with a couple of friends of mine the other day. I’m standing in the bathroom doing my thing, when I hear Kristines girlfriend talking english in the livingroom. I didn’t think much of it, until my good friend Espen told me Ross Jeffries was on skype, ready for the interview.”Take your time, Fredrik, She’s doing a good job warming him up for you”.

When I got out there Ross were singing swedish; the themesong of Pippi Longstockings for the girls He told me he enjoyed visiting Sweden not so long ago and he loves Pippi. He’s very curious about Norway. He heard we had the prettiest girls on this planet…Can’t argue with Ross on that one. So after a little bit of smalltalk and fun, we started the interview.

Oh, you’re still ready are you? Btw, in the end of the interview I have a big surprise for you. I mean a HUGE surprise! Excited?! I know I am! “OKAAAAY, ROCKSTAR, QUIT STALLING YOU MORON!!”

Let’s get to it!

Oh, wait, are you sitting comfortable? The cup of coffee is still hot and the porn is turned off? Locked the door so nobody will disturb? Allright allright, I’m sorry, just checking. I want this to be a nice experience…jeeez.

I’m an asshole…

Here we go for real!

First of all, I just want to say how much I appriciate you taking your time to do this interview, it means a lot to me and the fans will love it! I know you are a busy man. One thing I’ve always been curious about is how you reacted to Neil Strauss book “The Game”. Did you like it?

First of all, I’m greatful to Neil for writing the book, I actually gave him the idea to write the book. We were at this hotel in Santa Monica and I said to him “you know what, you should really write a book about the game and the community” and he said he would talk to his editor about it. And the book made me famous all over again. I have so many friends and fans all over the world because of that and I hope some of them are reading this. I don’t think the book is entirely accurate, I think Neil took a few liberties. Not so much so we didn’t get the clear picture, but some of the characters, like Twotimer, was a combination of people to make it easier to write the book. And some of the things he said about me was exaggerated. Like when he wrote me saying “The price for betrayal, is dark beyond measure of your mortal mind”. I actually said it in a Darth Vader voice as a JOKE. I did it as a joke. And he forgot to mention that. But overall I’m very happy he wrote the book.

Me too!! Let’s move on. Tell me, how did you come up with Speed Seduction?

Originally I was looking for ways to solve my own problems, I was not attractive to women, I was afraid of women and had a lot of issues with approach anxiety. When I stumbled upon NLP I read a book by Richard Bandler and John Grinder and I immediately understood that I could use this to solve my own problems. This is back in 1987, probably before you were born! Hahaha!

I was born in 82!!

Haha! Anyway, that’s how I came up with it.

Cool. I’m guessing from the things you just said that you were pretty lousy with women…

That’s true. I got two girls into bed up until 1987, that means I was…uh…I was born in 1958, you do the math. I was nearly thirty years old. Two girls! Terrible. Really terrible.

Then you’re gonna love this question! What’s it like today?

Well today it’s a new reality, not just because I have mad skills, but also I’m sort of a celebrity. “The Game” and Facebook really changed it for me. Now I have female fans from all over the world. But I still mostly rely on game. And I have to say, I’m 51 years old and my last girlfriend who I broke up with, this beautiful swedish girl, was 21 years old. I get along with women under 30 a lot better. They’re so much more fun and vivid.

You see an attractive woman standing alone at the bar, ordering a drink. How would you pick her up?

Well, I don’t like bars. They’re too noisy, and I don’t like loud environments, but what I would do is walk up, I like to do a little preopener, I’d say…anything. First of all I would make a comment on the actual situation that is really funny. It all depends on the situation. A preopener can be anything, If she’s alone I could say “I’m wondering what you’re doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it’s not working on me.” And then when she laughs “You know, I’m glad you laughed, it shows you have a sence of humor.” It shows you have a sence of humor before you introduce yourself “my name is…”. Now let’s go through that opener. I walk up and I say”I’m wondering what you’re doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it’s not working on me.” Now that’s a really fynny way to pace her reality, cause the reality is there is no guys in there. I’m saying it in a funny way, so I’m getting rapport by pacing her reality, I’m showing her that I’m funny. And then there’s the next part I do. This part is really crucial to make this work. When I say “I’m glad you laughed, it shows you have a sence of humor” , what is that doing? It’s showing that I’m screening for something more then her looks, and that humor is important to me. I’m showing that I have standards. All of that is accomplished in the space of a minute. Women likes different vibes, and if you can show in the space of a minute that you have all the vibes, you’re halfway home.

So, how would you follow that up? Would you do patterns and stuff or…

There’s two ways I could follow it up: I could follow up with a question that is designed to open up her imagination and emotions, or I could follow up with a fun game. It’s a coin toss, 50/50, half the time I do the question, half the time I do the game. So the game will be something like this: “Let’s play a little quiz that I’ve learned. It’s called the Snack Quiz. Let’s see if we are snack compatible. Cause according to scientists, 98 percent of couples who get along are snack compatible. So let’s see. M&M’s or potatochips?” No matter what she answers, the first answer is always wrong. Then I say “Ok, but it’s two out of three…potatochips or chocolate bars?” We’re just testing to see how she responds to that. The reason I go for this is because women likes games. Women are conditioned to respond to games. The format or subject isn’t important, if it’s a quiz or game. So I could start with a game or a question. Now that question is designed to open up her imagination.

So the the question I like to ask is “You know, I’m really curious, cause I’ve found out I really learn a lot about people by learning what really grabs their attention. So  when you want to focus in, to give all you attention to do something you really love to do, what do you want to do? That question is designed to give her pleasure, and then I can play on that.

What’s your favorite pattern, when it comes to get the girl attracted to you?

My favorite pattern has to do with how I show up. What you do with your body, what you do with your beliefs, what you visualize in your mind, what you’re doing with your energy and vibe. So, 50 percent of this has to do with how you show up. Remember, patterns aren’t just language. So my favorite pattern is how I show up.

Great! I know some people think Speed Seduction is unethical, how do you look at it?

Why is it unethical for guys to systematically attract and please women? I don’t see that as unethical at all. Now here’s what unethical; using anyones system, my system, Mystery Method, Real Social Dynamics, you can use anything to hurt people. The system itself is neutral, it’s the way you use it. I actually believe that speed seduction is the most honest system, cause it doesn’t rely on pretending to be something you’re not. You don’t need platform heals, paint you fingernails or pretending to live a lifestyle you’re not. Speed seduction doesn’t rely on this, but it does rely on you being smart. If you’re stupid I can’t help you. Now why would I want to help stupid people breath…hehehe. Let them die out, you know

I’m just curious, is the girls there listening now?

No, they are out smoking…

Oh, I hate smoking! But ok, let’s continue.

How can a guy get to be really good at Speed Seduction? I’m guessing it’s about a little more then just memorizing patterns?

Immersion. You know when you take a bath and you get your whole body into the water, not just the tip of your toe? That’s it. Immerse yourself into it. Take my courses. Don’t just listen or read’em once, listen to them nonstop. Join my coaching program at rjcoaching.com, you can talk with me live four times a month for 1 dollar the first month and get your questions answered. Also surround yourself with other guys doing this. DON’T mix it with other systems. Speed Seduction doesn’t mix well with other systems. It’s like trying to take chocolate and put som shit in it.

Haha!

So don’t take the shit from other systems and mix it with the fine chocolate of speed seduction

Hehe, I like you Ross! Do you teach body language and how to speak and stuff too?

No, I absolutely teach training routinality, but more important I teach beliefs.Training your energy, training your vibe…

Yeah, cause the body will follow?

Exactly!

Train yourself to be strong and commanding, fun and spontanious, train yourself to show a deep understanding to the womens world and then finally train yourself when to show them your world. Cause sometimes women want to feel that they understand you better then any other women in the world. So sometime you have to reveal something from your inner world. Not all the time of course, but once in a while. I think one of the keys to women is emotional variety. Knowing when to be strong and commanding, when to be fun and so on.

If you could teach a guy only three things to be good with women, what would it be?

Number one, control your state. Learn to build in a confidence that doesn’t rely on being accepted or rejected.

Number two, learn to look differently at how women create their world. Womens emotions, like love, desire, connection, attraction, are not things, they’re processes that women do inside of their body. If you learn to look at processes and activity instead of things, you will be able to see these things in her and be able to link them to yourself.

Number three, of course, learn to use your language to capture and lead a womans emotions and open up those parts of her mind that are useful for seduction. And to shut down those parts that are not useful.

Really good answers. But Ross, what are you up to these days?

Well, I’m writing a new book! I haven’t written a book since 1988. It’ll be published in two months. I’m also gonna start doing seminars on persuasion you can use in marketing, speaches, sales and such. How you use it outside the bedroom for business and outside of seduction.

Interesting! Well, this is it, Ross. Any final words before we wrap it up?

I’d say this, no matter how bad things are for you, I’ve been there and over 22 years, tens of thousands of students of mine have been there too. You are not alone in your struggle, you’re not alone with your sticking points, there are answers too if you’re interested. It’ll be my mission and my honour and privilege to help you with this. If you’re interested go to rjcoaching.com.

Thank you so much for this, Ross!

One more thing btw, you should look up my Norwegian friend Joergen Rasmussen, he has written the best book written on NLP in twenty years, it’s called provocative hypnosis. You should check it out. He’s a brilliant guy!

Yeah, my partner Jakob also recommend that book. Exellent Ross! Good luck to you! See you in the summer.

Yeah, thank you, we’ll talk soon!

That’s it guys. Hope you liked it. If you want to check out Ross website to learn more about speed seduction click here.

Yours

Fredrik Worren Rockadoodlestar.

Oooooh wait, I almost forgot the big surprise!!

I promised you a surprise, a huge surprise. That surprise is for my norwegian readers though. Ross Jeffries, “Seduction community, I’m your father” is coming to NORWAY!!! This summer! 2010! This is not a joke! More info on this will come. Just be aware, your father is coming to see you

PS! Also remember to rate and share the interview, and I’m sure Ross would love it if you dropped of a comment too

<3

Posted in Interviews of greatness, Ross Jeffries

Funny Friday

March 19, 2010 // No Comments »

Guys, I have something serious I want to share with you…

IT’S A NEW WEEKEEEEEEEEND!!!

Now that’s some serious shit!

I love fridays.

I don’t know if I’m going to post a funny Friday post every friday, but who knows. It’s easy, takes little effort AND it is fun!

Enjoy!

This is hilarious:

A Series of Letters to the First Girl I Ever Fingered

Dear Emily,Hi! How are you? I hope this letter finds you well. I don’t know if you remember me or not, but I’m the guy who fingered you at sleepaway camp.Anyway, I was just thinking about that, so I thought I would write and see how everything turned out with you.Your Friend (kind of),Michael Ian Black

Dear Emily,After not getting a response, I have become very worried that my last letter somehow offended you. Confused, I reread what I wrote several times, and finally came to the conclusion that, if you were offended, it was probably the part about fingering you that did it.If so, I am very sorry. Not about fingering you (which was great), but about referring to it so candidly after not communicating with you in over 20 years. So, I’m sorry. In the future, if I refer to fingering you at all, I will try to be a little more discreet.Very Sorry,Michael Ian Black

Dear Emily,Hi, it’s me again (the guy who f-ed you). Still haven’t heard back from you. Is everything okay between us?Write Back,Michael Ian Black P.S. That’s a rhyme – “Write Back/Michael Ian Black” LOL!

Dear Emily,Oh my God! I just realized that when I said I “f-ed you” in my last letter, that easily could be read as “fucked you.” God forbid your husband or lover (lesbian?) should read that! If that person IS reading THIS letter, I did NOT fuck your wife/lover. I just fingered her. I was just trying to be discreet about referencing it, which is why I used the initial “f” for “fingering.” Total brain fart!Please tell Emily to write me back. Or Emily, if you are the one reading this, sorry about calling you a lesbian in the previous paragraph (unless you actually ARE a lesbian, in which case I am TOTALLY cool with that) Did my fingering you turn you gay? I hope not.Sorry Again,Michael Ian Black

Dear Emily,Still no word from you. I feel like maybe we got off on the wrong foot right from the get-go, and I’d like to try to make it up to you.Let me start over, and if you still don’t want to write back, I will definitely understand.(Starting over):Dear Emily, Hi! How are you? This is Michael Ian Black. We went to camp together a long time ago. In fact, we kind of “dated” one summer. Pretty funny, huh? I don’t know if you remember me or not, but I definitely remember you. In fact, I have many fond memories of walking around the lake with you, playing knock hockey with you in the canteen, and also finger popping you. The truth is, you were the first girl I ever fingered, and I still think about it all the time. Please take that as the compliment that it is intended to be, and not as anything “weird” or “creepy.” (Believe me, I could easily see how receiving a letter from a 35-year-old man reminiscing about fingering a 13-year-old girl could be construed as inappropriate. It was DEFINITELY not intended that way) Anyway, if you get a moment, I’d love to hear all about your life. Do you like dogs? Your Friend, Michael Ian Black

Dear Emily,It’s starting to become clear to me that you have no intention of writing back. At first I thought it was because you were shy, and didn’t know what to say in your letters, which is why I ended the last one with a question designed to begin a dialogue (”Do you like dogs?”).However, now I’m beginning to think you just don’t want to communicate. Maybe you told your husband that HE was the first guy who ever fingered you, and these letters are a painful reminder of the lie you are living.If that’s the case, I DEFINITELY understand. I was once in similar position with a girl who wanted to put something (a small jar of martini olives) up my ass. Of course, I told her she was the first. But believe me when I tell you, she was FAR from the first.I lost touch with that girl a long time ago, but if she were to write to me today, I think I would at least have the courtesy to write her back. I hope you die. Michael Ian Black P.S. If you do die, I’m going to go to the funeral and finger your corpse

Hahaha! MAN I LOOOOVE FRIDAYS! JIZZZZZZ!

Have a good weekend! Don’t you do something I would have done!

Posted in Uncategorized

How to really like yourself and build self-esteem.

March 14, 2010 // 15 Comments »

Hola!

I wrote The Confident Man – article the other day and this is sort of a follow up.

I gave you something to model – the confident mans behavior.

I will dig deeper in this post.

This post will be about your self concept, you will learn why you’re conserned about what others think of you, you will learn how to like yourself and how to build self-esteem.

Is that great or what?!

When you’re picking up women, you can’t go along feeling inferior, unworthy or undeserving. You can’t be stopped by the fear you feel for social pressure. The women will know just by looking at you, and wooops, they’re off to find or be found by a more confident man.

If loosing the girl isn’t enough, low self-esteem will  lead to stress, pessimism, fearfulness, self-doubt and negativity.

If you don’t like yourself you will struggle to get other people to like you. No wonder…How can you expect to be liked if you don’t even like yourself?

I have two good news for you though.

1. You will always have the love from your mother.

2 . It’s possible to learn how to like yourself by keep reading this post and make a commitment to get this part of your life fixed asap.

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor Roosevelt

A huge mindset in pickup is “I don’t care what other people think about me”, because social pressure have to be dealt with and people who are comfortable under social pressure are attractive to women.

If you like a person, do you care what other people think of him? Me neither. I KNOW he’s a cool guy, I know I like him and nothing a person say can change that.

It’s the same when you like yourself! That’s core confidence!

So why are we so insecure about our self that we need others constant approval to feel good?

When you were a kid you quickly learned that if you didn’t do what your mum and dad expected of you, they would withdraw their love and approval, they would be angry and all negative about it. They would criticize and condemn, maybe even punish you physically to get you to do what they want.

So did a lot of other important people in your life. As the years passed by, your self-image, the way you see yourself and think about yourself, became more and more dependent upon the way you thought others saw you and thought about you. No wonder so many people get hypersensitive to the way people treats them and talks to them. Have you ever adjusted your behavior to get other people to like you, respect you or approve of you? I know I have.

Low self-esteem manifests itself into fear of rejection. Fear of rejection is NOT something you’re borned with, you learn it. When you were born you only had two fears: 1. The fear of falling and 2. the fear of loud noises. All the other fears you have in your life is learned by society.

To a greater or lesser degree, we all have fears and conserns about how people think about us. It’s normal. But some people care less. You know why? Because they are confident! They like them self! They know what they value and why, they know who they are.

Before I go into the steps to what you can do to change your self-image and self-esteem, I’ll explain the self-consept to you. Well, I’m not going to do it, I’ll let the seminar leader and author Brian Tracy do it instead(big influence on this article ):

Your self-concept is made up of three parts, each of which affects the others[...]

Your self-ideal is the person you most want to be, sometime in the future. Your self-ideal determines the directions of your life, of your growth and evolution as a person. Your self-image, on the other hand, determines the way you perform in the present. Your self-image is the way you see yourself now, today, at this moment. Your self-esteem is largely determined by the relationship between your self-image and your self-ideal, or the way you are performing in your day-to-day activities compared with the way you would be performing if you were the very best person you could possible be.

So to like yourself you have to be or act as your self-ideal. You see?

Sit down and find a pen and paper or do it on your computer. The hell with it, just tattoo it on your forehead.

SIX STEPS to like yourself and get better self-esteem

1. Find out who your self-ideal is. For example: Being positive, valuegiver, respectful, well fit. A tip is to picture yourself at your own funeral – how would you like people to remember you?

2. Write down what you can start doing to become that person.

For example: Being a valuegiver: I’m going to treat other people as though they are very valuable; I will do my best to make their day better, I will talk positive about others, even though they might not deserve it at all times. I will be generous with compliments. I’m going to try to see things from their perspective. And so on. And start DOING IT too, don’t just say you will, but do it.

3. Act as if you are your self-ideal, remember motion creates emotion – all actions have reactions: Make small steps, but make a commitment to actually do it every day. It’ll take about 21 days to establish a habit. This should be your aim. Do it as a mission for at least 21 days.

This will shorten the gap between your self-ideal and your self-image and you will start to like your self better:) One day you will BE you self-ideal.

4. Do the things you fear. Repeatedly. Feel the fear and do it anyway (title of a book on the subject). This is called “systematic desensitization”. It’s the best way to grow confidence and balls in any area of life. Fears are unlearned by repeated acts of courage in opposition to the responses of fear.- Brian Tracy. And one more thing: Rejection is NOT personal!

5. Never give up! If you fall off the horse, get your ass back up there. Never EVER give up. Be proud of your self for not giving up, knowing that failure is not real before you have given up. Failure is what you learn from. I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work – Thomas A. Edison. And when you finally manage it, nothing will make you feel more confident. Positive experiences/outcomes builds self-esteem like nothing else.

6. Do affirmations every day.

Strangers are just extras in the movie about your life, so why give a damn about what others think of you, right?

Good luck pal!

Much love,

Fredrik Worren

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Quick update

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Hey guys!

I promised you some pictures in the last post.

I’m a man of my words so here you go:

Now that’s a cranky mofo. I guess I would have been too if I were caged in like this.

I really love animals. When I was a kid I was obsessed with animals. I had animal toys, read animal books, drew animals and had posters of animals. I even caught wild animals and had them as my pets. Mice, rats, snakes, frogs, a pigeon, fish, I even caught a bat and kept it for some days, feeding it with ants. Haha. That poor thing died. Terrible. I also joined the penny club, just to get a free poster with horses on it.

Haha, it was just something innocent about animals that drew me in I guess. Fascinating.

As I got older it was humans and psychology. Then women and pickup. Always something isn’t it.

Anyway, take a look at this cute little thing. If he could talk I guess he would say: WTF is that shit??!:

Kristine, or Eve as she is popularly called(from now on), right after she stole an apple from me:

Somebody had too much to drink last night…:

Haha, I had to take his picture. PS! Don’t tell anyone

Something fell down in my hands:

YES, that thing is real and yes I’m proud!

Kristine strikes a pose with some less beautiful beings:

Ok, that was it. Check out the blog in some hours, I will post a valuable article about how you can implement the mindset ” I don’t give a damn about what others think of me” and how to really start liking yourself which is very important to attract others into your life.

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Read this if your’e going out tonight!!

March 13, 2010 // No Comments »

Hey guys!

I just want to wish you all a crazy saturday night!

Tonight is the night people!

Can you remember a night when it all just seemed to work? Everybody responded positively towards you, the girls liked you and maybe you got one of them with you home. You were in the ZONE!

What was that night all about?

Let me tell you hornball!

You had FUN!

And you know what? Girls just want to have fun. In some cases they’ll even trade cock for fun. Girls can’t keep away from fun. They just can’t. And why should them?

Imagine your self in a cool conversation with two girls, they really like you and they are obviously attracted to you. Then a really cool song comes on and both of them look at each other like this is the worlds best song. And boom, they’re off dancing. The song was just too much fun for them to stay away from.

Girls are emotional beings. In most cases much more then us men. Girls follow emotions over logic any day. While you would think “When are we gonna get it on?!” the girl would think “When it feels right and not a minute earlier…”

Have you heard the saying “Change her emotions, not her mind”?

There is a reason for that.

SO! Lead her emotions! People feel what you feel. So make sure you have a good time and people you interact with will too.

A great way to do this is through fun.

I will give you a post about how to be playful soon. It’s not that hard AND it is really really fun.

Anyway, I’m going out the door now to have fun with my woman. We’re going to this reptile park in Oslo where they now also got monkeys…WTF…why mix monkeys and reptiles? I don’t know but I guess the people running the park has a good sence of humor, so we’re off. I’ll post some pictures from it when we get home again. Or should I say IF we get home. I just recently saw the movie “Snakes on a plane” (NOT a new favorite of mine), and that was just snakes, no monkeys, and we all saw how that went down.

Remember people!

GIRLS JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN!

Make fun happen. Ask yourself: “How could I make this fun right now?”

Good luck! I think it’s your night tonight.

That Cyndi Lauper may make your ears hurt but she is singing the truth!

Yours

Fredrik/ROCKSTAR

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These are the qualities women get attracted to

March 10, 2010 // 2 Comments »

Welcome friend!

Today, I though I should be nice and give you a little post about attraction.

There are some men who attract more women than others. And it is not because they have more digits in their bank account or because they have thicker and fuller hair than other men, but because they are proud holders of certain qualities women are attracted to.

I will go quickly through each of these qualities, and save the one I think is most important to the end. The day it went up for me how important this particular quality was, was the day I took my game to new heights and were more successful than I had ever been before.

I’ll try to keep this article as short and precise as possible. I want to go through the male qualities that I think is most important when it comes to attraction. There is other factors and qualities than I will mention here, but this is the most important ones.

Acquire these qualities and you will attract women like candy attracts kids.

These qualities are something that subcommunicates through body language and facial expressions as well as through what you say and actively doing.
Should we just jump to it then?

Follow me! Let me lead you through these amazing qualities girls love.

First out is …

* Social intelligence

Yep, this is a nice quality. This is unfortunately not something you can learn that easy by reading a text or hear a speach, but you have to learn it the hard way. Through trial and error by being social. It’s about understanding other people, understand that when you say or do A – B happens. Calibration. Empathy. It is as much about self-understanding as to understand the social game. Are many good examples of lack of self-knowledge in the more or less fantastic show Idol.

Social intelligence is something you learn by being with people, of communicating with other people. Being able to interpret the signals people send out, understand when you have made a fool out of your self and when you have done something right. The ability to read people, understand the emotion that is communicated. Degree of self-knowledge and level of understanding of irony and sarcasm, are two good ways to “measure” social intelligence. Typical features for people with poor social intelligence is precisely the lack of understanding of irony and sarcasm.

* Self-Esteem

Wasn’t exactly a bomb being dropped, was it? Ask any girl about what they like most in a boy and most of them respond self-confidence. Self-confidence is very attractive and one of the most important qualities you need to attract a woman. Without this, you are chanceless. You must believe in yourself, love yourself, for others to believe in you and love you. How can you expect that others believe in you if you do not believe in yourself? Self-confidence is something you have inside, but manifest itselves on the outside, through body language and actions. Self-confidence is about how you think about yourself. Believe in yourself.

Do not compare yourself with others. Find out who you are and what you stand for and trust in yourself, and you’re there. Easier said than done, but this comes with the right attitudes and ways of thinking.

* Social proof / Social Status

This is important. Who do you trust the most, one who is loved by many friends, or one that is out there alone without knowing anyone? If people see that others like you, they will be curious about you and have a positive attitude to you as a starting point. People notice how other people react to you and creates a picture of you on this basis. This is something all people understand more or less consciously. Therefore, we are all so damn afraid of not being liked. Therefore, we care about what others think about us. This effect can created in the venues by being very social and talk to everyone. After a while it looks as if you know the whole night club.

Check out this video about “lording”.

Very powerful to take advantage of this when you’re out sarging. Something that brings me over to Preselection, or being pre-selected by others. A huge part of attraction. Being pre-selected by other women is very attractive. You will get this effect when you are seen with women who like you, smiles at you and such.

Walk around with the ladies on you arm and show off a bit, this will make sets open up like [insert one or another analogy for the things that open up without a shred of resistance]. Are you in a bar with two women who tries to flirt with you, other women assume that you are THE MAN and will be attracted. As simple as that.  This is something I use a lot when I’m out. I open a set, take a women in each arm and wander around in the club to “show off”. When I open the woman I really like later, she will be attracted before I have time to say hello.

* The ability to cope with social pressure

This is alpha and omega. This is what pickup artists working on constantly. When you’re out sarging, social pressure will shoot in from all directions. It’s the feeling you get when someone considers you, judge you, looks at you. It’s about time to forget all about this. It’s about not caring what others think about you. If you get affected by social pressure all the time, it means you’re probably not a confident man. When women shit test you, it is to test you, to see if you are the cool attractive guy you’re claiming to be. The way they do this is by putting you under social pressure. For example, they may ask you to leave as soon as you open up your mouth, or they could ask you whether or not you have a big dick, if you can buy them a drink, watch their jacket and so on. If a girl is able to make you reactive, how the hell can you be strong enough to take care of her in the ugly world we live in? If you’re not affected by social pressure, it means either that you are crazy, or that you are a mentally strong person who knows who he is and not care what others think. You are steady as a rock. Approach anxiety = fear of social pressure. It is important to challenge yourself constantly. Do things you normally would not do. Sing karaoke. Allready singing? Well, sing karaoke sober then. Talk to an audience. Put yourself in the spotlight. Learn to love social pressure. That’s why women like men who stand out, both in a simplified way and socially, because it means they can handle social pressure. If you stand out you will be exposed to social pressures. You should not worry about what others think about you.

Test yourself on this. Jonas, a friend of mine held a spontaneous speech in the Parliament. Another one I know read a porn magazine on the train, quite openly, just to push themselves out of the comfort zone(I’m not saying that you must read porn and provoke people). If you do not do things that you are a little afraid of, you will not develop. Check this out, this is extreme in this area:

You wont develop yourself in your comfort zone. It’s about being comfortable in all settings. Can you do this, you have won. I repeat: Fuck WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU.

* The ability to lead

The main feature I would say is the ability to lead. What makes an alpha male in a wolf pack? Who fucks the most in a wolf pack? The alpha male! Be the leader and you get the ladies. Easy. Be the one who takes decisions, be the one with people around you who reacts to what you do. Leading is not just about being the one who makes decisions on a superficial level, there are many ways to lead. I know doormen who pulls women as hell at work, but not otherwise. Why? Several reasons for this, but one of them is that they are leaders when they are at work. People react to them. They have control and take decisions.

Control conversations

Lead conversations. It does not mean you should be the one who speaks all the time or that you should never let others talk about what they want, but be the one who controls the conversation. If you lose control, a great way towin it back is to ask questions. The one who asks questions is in control. Another tip is to soak people into your reality by talking about things you like. Enthusiasm always get the upper hand.

Teach the girl things

Teach the woman something new. This can be something as simple as teaching her thumb war. When you teach something you lead. Find something fun you can teach girls.  Something physical is good, so you can be a little dominant and get the kino(touch) going.

Lead women physically

Drag the girl around with you, show her places, introduce her to people. Take your arm around her shoulder. This is dominant behavior and most women responds positive to this.

Lead yourself

Show that you have control of yourself and your life. A man who can not lead himself can not lead others. Take care of yourself. Know who you are and what you want. This is perhaps the most important about leading yourself. Without this you will struggle to lead others. Who will follow someone who doesn’t know where to go?

Create situations

Be the person who creates things around you. Create hustle and bustle, interesting discussions, laughter and emotions in others. For example, when someone tell you a joke that makes you laugh, they lead your emotions. It’s pretty sexy.

Take responsibility

Take responsibility for everything about the adventure you and the girl have. Women like to say that things just happened. Do not put the responsibility in the hands of the woman.  If you ask the girl to come home with you, you give her the responsibility, which is not good. Just say “Let’s go” instead of asking. That is leading. Now assume that she follows, because you are a leader and leaders are accustomed to people following them. A leader is responsible. Do not put the blame on others, complaine or whine . You are responsible.

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Is this qualities of yours? Sit down and write down what you have and what you lack in these areas. Then write down what you can do to improve. The potential lies within you. You can be the man with these qualities. Now it’s not like you must have ALL these qualities to attract the ladies, but to be really good and attract the ideal woman as you probably want to do …you have to become… yes you guessed it –> the ideal man.

Remember, it’s not your body that is the primary tool to attract girls, it’s your brain!

Happy hunting

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