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Archive for April, 2010
Become unstoppable
Hey guys.
I just want to post a little update from my life with you.
It’s been some weird weeks.
I have cried many tears lately. Yesterday I was at a funeral. A beautiful one. My beloved uncle died of a heart attack. 44 years old. BOOM – gone. Tragical. He always said “We have all been given a specific number of heart beats, you better make the best of them.”
Damn I loved that guy. The good die young.
That’s a proud me on the left, my uncle in the middle and my father at the right.
I’m glad we had that vacation together. Prime time. Man, we had fun. We build our cabin, went fishing, had a couple of beers and enjoyed ourself big time.
Losing my uncle made me realize a couple of things. Man I should have called him more often, visited him more often. You never know how much time you have on this planet. Or your loved ones. I knew this before this happened, but I didn’t feel it. Now I do.
Make that phone call you’re thinking about. Spend more time with your family. Cause you never know. BOOM and it’s gone. Do the things you wish you could do. Don’t let fear stop you. Live the life to the fullest
I know I will!Rest in peace, uncle Steinar, you will be dearly missed…<3
Over to something totally different. You Norwegian guys probably know that the company of Jakob Løvstad and I, Alfamann, is put on ice, meaning; it’s put down. Like a dog
No, I’m kidding, it went well, but Jakob wanted to practice what he loved the most, and that was NLP, so he took a course with his girl friend and started up a new company with her. As far as I know that is going great. And that’s awesome. You can check it out if you want: http://www.muene.no/Anyway, I miss bootcamps. Yeah I do. So I made some phone calls and now the big plan is to start over, with a very good friend of mine. Nothing is for certain, but for you Norwegian guys who would like to take a bootcamp with me should be glad. My bet is that we will have our very first bootcamp in the end of may, and it will be the best work I have ever done. But as I said, nothing is for certain yet. We are working on it.
Ok. Moving on. Just a quick update about Ross Jeffries coming to Norway. The seminar will be in Oslo 31 july – 1 August. It will be possible to sign up for this any day now. That is cool…
Last thing, this weekend I’m attending a seminar with Michael Lassen in Oslo as a pupil. It’s called “Become unstoppable”. ICON is working close with him and he convinced me to go see him, cause he is so awesome. How can I refuse?
It’s not expencive, so you should check it out too.Learn more about it on the Norwegian version of my blog: http://www.rockstarpickup.com/?p=901
That’s it for now. I’ll probably post a new interview very soon, or a new post on openers. Just keep checking my blog.
And hey! Remember! “We have all been given a specific number of heart beats, you better make the best of them.”
Love, Fredrik
Interview with TVA_Oslo
Woop woop!
Hehe, it’s funny, one of the biggest names in Norway these days are TVA_Oslo, the funny part is that he is a teenager. Super Talented! Very reflected and very very lethal with women. No boundaries, big balls and a smooth talker.
He is big on the Masf forums, and now also big on the Norwegian forums which he almost revolutionized with his mindsets and extrem sexual game. He’s so young and has his very own strong reality nobody can break. He is loved and hated in the community, mainly because some think he is full of shit, while others thinks the opposite, and of course there is a lot of envy going around. He’s so young and has this mad game. And yeah, it’s for real.
So now, I’ve finally got an interview with this guy.
Ok, put your ego aside and get ready to learn something from a teenager.
Here we go bro!
Thanks, it’s been an honor. I hope you guys will learn something from this.
How was your life with women before you started with “structured game”?
Hum, I started having a real interest for women when I was 11-12. You know when kids start masturbating and shit.
At that time I went to a little private school. I didn’t have many friends because I didn’t like playing football. That made me a bit of an outsider. And guys always gave me a hard time for being a bit original. My self-esteem… well I didn’t really exist. And girls… man I got happy if I got a hug!
I wasn’t popular at all, girls said “EW” to me, face to face, it fucking sucked buddy!When I was 13, the summer before starting in secondary school, I went to Denmark to a holiday place. There I had fun partying on the beach, got drunk for the first time and shit. I met a fucking hot girl, in fact she was stunning! And she became even more stunning when she said she wanted to become a porn star in the future! My sex drive was huge, I wanted to become a player at all cost. I already wanted to fuck a bunch of girls.
That made me even more attracted and horny, and later on I modeled this to make it a technique called sexual prizing (giving hints of you being a good lover) So I started chasing her. I invited her out, paid drinks, dinner, you name it!
I was kind and cool, and she just had a good time.The night came, and a bunch of older guys came to our little beach party. 10 minutes later, she was tonguing down one of the guys! Yeah I felt awesome! Not!!!
The autumn came, I started at a new secondary school, a public one this time, a big one. It started out great, I met a cutie, and she seemed to really like me. Really hot chick, but 1 week later, I started getting bullied like a son of a bitch! And my social status faded down, I ended up even worse than I used to be in the previous school I went to. I didn’t want to get laid; I just wished I could go to school without having lameasses spitting crap on me. This lasted for almost a year. And the girl who liked me, she became the GF of one of the cool dudes. Not cool.
Then one night, I went to a store nearby where I live. There I met 2 guys, one of them an old buddy. I found out we were going at the same school. He was 2 year older. His name was TK and his friend Pingo, actually went to nursery school with me. We talked and I mentioned my issue. The war started. I found out, at that time TK knew everyone, all the cool dudes, the dangerous dudes, and the powerful dudes who could provide everything from cheap clothes of high quality, to drugs, to club entrances at 16 already! Not bad.
He and Pingo was going to show the guys who bullied me a hell of lesson. And trust me, the revenge was beautiful.
The second year of high school went better. Actually I met people outside of school. I was making an empire of contacts. It started with TK contacts and from there I made a bunch of new friends. I felt the power yeah!
They also taught me a lot. They helped me with my style, told me how to behave and stuff! They also introduced me to a bunch of chicks. I started partying thank to my new contacts. I got some kisses sometimes. It was a lot of fun.
- What is it like now?
I met a ugly girl at a party once… I managed to extract her to a school yard, and started licking her pussy, we got busted… I wanted to get laid so badly but it didn’t go well. But I felt closer and closer to the goal.The Christmas came, and I took a trip to Puerto Rico on Gran Canaria. This literally changed my life.
At the hotel, my little brother and my half brother met a little girl. They played with her, and had some fun. Then her sister came. We chatted and had a good time. The hotel was a boring shithole for being honest. No young people around, far from clubs. It sucked. I and the girl wanted to have good time. She was older than me, 2 years actually. She was horny as hell, and started touching me. I didn’t touch much back… because I wasn’t sure if I wanted her yet, till my brother and her sister went to bed we sat on a couch at the hotel reception. Things started getting hot there, really hot. We kissed, touched each other. I took her hand and led her to a lost hotel. We managed to get on a balcony of the hotel room. The Hotel was closed and not in use anymore. She sucked me off after I licked her pussy. But the place sucked so we moved a bit further. We saw a rave tent there, and we started having sex on a rock outside of it.
But she had to go watch out for her little sister, so we went back to the hotel. Her sister was fine and we finished off on the pool table. The next day she told me I was just a friend. She had a boyfriend, but the place where we were situated sucked that much that she couldn’t resist fucking me even more. Oh she was a beast in bed and did a lot of crazy shit. She swallowed my cum as she’s never ate before. From there we had sex everywhere. Hotel room, shower, hotel corridor, bushes, you name it!
When I went home I changed secondary school. With the new mindset, behavior and friends I was hoping starting out a new life. I actually got a lot of friends, the girls started liking me, it all became cooler. But I wanted more.
I got laid 2 month later at a party. Well but a girl blew me under a trampoline.
Then 3 month after that I met another chick who was really into me. Actually she was a younger chick. I was 15 at the time, she was 13 I think. We had sex in a bush at the first date. Good times. She became my GF for 2 weeks, till I went to Turkey. I also had some funny stories there, but I don’t want to make things too long for you dear readers.
After my trip I was starting my last year in secondary school. I met a new friend. He lived in Oslo richest part, was good looking and had a hell of an attitude. He managed to have a lot of parties. One night He laid a smoking hot chick. We sat outside taking a smoke and I asked him how he did it. He answered by explaining about the book “The Game”.
I got a kidney infection few weeks later. So I purchased “The Game”. I didn’t like reading at that time but I swallowed every word of that book like candy. I wanted to go out with my new superpowers. In fact I went to a party before being completely restored. The next day I ended up at the hospital! Cool!
I really liked Mystery, so I purchased “The Venusian Art Handbook”. I didn’t get much result.
But it was a beginning of a real player lifestyle! I trusted this shit, I knew it was possible, and that was enough for me!
Well, right now it’s craziness. I have always been a very original guy, up for adventure. In fact I live for adventures!
I can mostly pick up chicks everywhere (even from the STD clinic), I mean for a few years ago that would feel impossible! And I freaking love to see the face of dudes when I pick up chicks, “WTF?” is the usual impression.
I managed to pull chicks, but I wanted more. Experiment more. I love the rush I get from it. Right now, I am creating a whole new way of pick up never seen before. We all heard Gambler say similar things, but this is completely new! It’s called “gaygame”. Picking up lesbians, and bisexual girls, sarging in gay venues, and use it as your advantage. I am amazed with the results. In fact I had a friend from the lair that went out with me trying it out. He couldn’t believe how easy it was! Why make it hard for yourself!I have periods were I experiment more with one thing more than the other. For instance for 3 months ago I was into dance venues. There I focused on quick escalation dance floor game. The main focuses were actually fingring girls quickly and get hand job on the dance floor. 2 months before that again, I was into threesomes with fuck buddies. Well now threesomes are a pretty easy thing for me because of my gay surrounding. Tons of Lesbos and bi-chicks! Love it!
So how is it now? Well craziness!
I mean I have done so much fucked up shit. Experimenting sexually if my drive. I think I got the best sex life on earth. Sounds a bit douchey, but yeah I do feel it that way.
Today I can go out and end up in some crazy situation. I love this life style.
How would you define your game?
It’s based on understanding: understanding women’s situation. We live in a sexually suppressed society. Women do not have a good sex. They are not used to it. So their sex drive is somewhat sleeping, your job to wake it up. Girls need good sex more than men because it’s harder for a female to get an orgasm than for us men. This is also why women dislike one night stands some times, because the sex they get literally sucks.
So they got a higher chance of having good sex in a relationship. Because then they can get time and chances to show their partner what they really like. Sadly, it doesn’t always work out; in fact the sex keeps being really lame. After an observation, 10% of the girls in relationships get real orgasms. That’s way too bad so I started thinking that they must be seeking it at all cost!
Another thing with relationships: girls can have lots of sex without social consequences. Being labeled as a slut for example is one of their biggest fears. So in relationship they can get a sex provider with no consequences.
But what if a girl knows you can give amazing sex? Without any social consequences! That would change the whole set up.
Girls are more driven by emotions than men. In order to make a girl sexual you have to make her horny. A guy, he knows sex is good from a logic viewpoint. Therefore he want sex. Girls… are more “oh I feel horny, I want cock” or “Yuck sex is bad and dirty…” depending on their emotions.
So escalation is key, you got to lead her emotions into a horny one. It’s called escalating the vibes, creating the momentum were you are both horny and want each other without any obstacles. Just loses the focus on reality. It’s called sexual tension. You don’t only escalate physically, but the whole vibe. This is a concept made by 60 years of challenge. It’s highly recommended to check him out.
So mostly my game is:
* Show her I am a sexual dude, set the sexual frames – Setting the correct frame earlier will make her perceives you the right way. Show her that things are going to get sexual. This way you avoid the shock effect when you are both in bed. “Oh you actually wanted to fuck me” effect. Remember the way she perceives you is the way she will threat you. This can also be a good screening tool for finding girls that fits you. A girl you don’t fit with will give you a bad vibe from the beginning. Especially when you come off as “sexual”.
* Release the pressure around sex and show her I won’t give any social consequences from sex – Many girls got issues about being seen as sluts. This can be both an internal issue and an external one. She might don’t want to be perceived as a slut by others. For instance most guys got a big ego and will brag about the lay. This way she can get labeled as a slut, and she knows this can happen. Or she likes you and doesn’t want to be seen as a slut by you. Many men will judge women for sexual behavior because they think women likes men who aren’t too sexual, so in order to qualify themselves they will act like they are not sexual, heck ever heard the line “I am not only after sex”. So in order to qualify themselves they act like they hate sexual girls. Men are afraid of being labeled as perves. So the key here is to show her you are not that type of person.
* Show her that I don’t judge for sexual desires – This can also help a lot. You won’t call her nasty when she tells you she wants to poop on you, instead telling her you are not up for it but come up with another proposition.
- Showing her that you are a bigger perve will make her feel more comfortable of being pervert with you. “He is more pervert than me, so I can say what I want because I will never be perceived more pervert than him”. Another thing is to appreciate her sexual behavior, show her that you enjoy her sex stories, show her you love hearing about her sexuality. A good rule from my friend Pureevil is, to reward her good behavior (often sexual one) with horniness! In fact show her that she turns you on when she behaves that way (sexually).
* Show her that I am a good lover – Most girls get lame sex from guys, you know; just in and out and bye bye. Show her that you are not that type of guy. Explain to her indirectly why you are not. Hint to her that you are a good lover. A good way to do this is to talk about what you like in bed, tell her what many girls like in bed, and describe in details sex technique. Or simple by telling her a few good sex stories. Make her envy the girls in the sex story!
Read up on some sexology in order to get good at this.* Open her up sexually – Remember an interaction is mutual, sexual tension is mutual, sex is mutual. So ask her a little bit about herself in general and also when it comes to sex. A good thing is that she will want you more since you know a bit more about what she likes and therefore it will hint to her that you can provide it to her.
* Escalating the vibe – This one is also key. You need to show her that you actually like her. Move things forward. Sex talking surely does move forward but you want to escalate maybe physical as well to make it go quickly and more efficient. The term comes from 60 years of challenge. Were the vibe grows from social to sexual and then into mad horniness vibe. Create some moments were you show her that “yeah between us, it’s on”, this is your goal.
* Solving logistics – Can help a lot. Have a place to fuck, and lead her there.
* Persistence – Resistance is good. Avoid it, and persist. She needs to resist in order to feel more safe. She wants to give you all the guilt for the sex, so she can feel less like a slut. Also handling resistance creates even more tension. Awesome!
Now I don’t use all this in any particular order. My field experience just tells me were which technique should be used. I also don’t always use them. For instance let say a girl is horny as hell with no sexual hang ups, well then I will just caveman her. If a girl is horny with sexual hang ups, I would solve those first…
Let’s say a girl got no hang ups but isn’t horny or isn’t attracted, then I know I will have to make her want me sexually.- Try to observe her a bit, read her. Find out where you are and what you should do next. Listen to her vibe.
So Beside of the pointers above, I think it’s necessary to develop some diagnostic skills. “Where Am I now?”
You have a very sexual game. Why all the focus on sexual game?
Well first of all, I said earlier, that when I entered this community I started with the Mystery Method. After practicing it for 3 months, I got one kiss. Horrible results in my opinion. A week later I checked out the players guide on www.fastseduction.com/playerguide. I was reading up a style of pick up called GM style, which was a bunch of techniques based on mixing sexual intent with humor. The same Night I went to a little party and tried it out. I got a blowjob in the bathroom. Sadly this technique worked, but was far from consistent. So from there I started focusing on the sexual way of pick up.
The other reason for why I like it is because it doesn’t only get me laid, it gives you good sex, the sex I want, crazy sex. This is very important for me. It also gave quick results. Why wait?
Okay let’s say you are in a VIP club, really high class. At those places you can find a lot of smoking hot girls. The guys around you are usually rich or got a lot of social value. No matter if you are a pick up artist or not you will have a hard time challenging these guys value wise. Therefore you need to fight in your own league. You won’t be cooler than the guys around… or appear richer…. but what about a good fuck? I can provide that!A last thing is that I don’t fear rejection, what I do fear is having a girl crying on my shoulders. Yeah making a girl attracted to me in another way than just sexual. I just wanted to fuck her but she expected more. With sexual game you show her what the deal is, so you avoid these problems. It’s an ethical thing. About ethics, sexual game isn’t based on bullshit or lying, or hiding your intentions, it’s very genuine. Also it doesn’t seem to set up a frame of who chases who, or who is cooler than who. Well sometimes it does when girls tries to convince me they are better in bed than I am, but that’s a good thing because they will have to prove it
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Normally it creates a very genuine vibe really enjoy it.I love the outcome: sex. But I also love the way to the outcome. I love this type of game because I love being sexual. I love seeing her be sexual. I love feeling the sexual vibe. I love it!
You see a girl you’re attracted to in the bar. How would you pick her up?
It would really depend on how she is really. I can write down about an approach from this Friday. I managed to extract to her place, but her husband came home and I had to act gay to not get beaten up. So here is what I did.
I try to lock some eye contact with her. If that works out I would usually flirt with her a bit from distance and then walk up to her/her group.
If that doesn’t work out I would walk up to her, hover around her until she notices me and then go in and introduce myself, that’s what I did this weekend, I hovered. It makes it feel more like “we noticed each other, why not say hi” instead off “I walked up and tried to break the ice”.
From there I would introduce myself to the whole group, ask a few social questions and show some interest signs to my target and then leave the set.My plan is to reset the frame, and come in with a sexual one right after. For instance I would re-engage by touching her shoulder, whisper “hey there you are” in her ear and grab her hand.
Then move her closer to me.Then the interaction would go like this:
TVA: (touching her): You know I am a man, I like to touch a female body, isn’t that normal?
HB: I think so… (not really interested yet, it’s key to keep your frame and don’t break rapport don’t remove the sexual frame, keep the frame!!!)
TVA: (puts her hand on my own body, creating mutual touching) and you like to touch a male body, that doesn’t mean you love me or anything, but that means that biologically you enjoy it, because you attracted to men. So this sounds weird… but I was thinking, why can’t we just enjoy ourselves, I mean, both men and females?
HB: Well It depends really, I think you have to like the person (that answer is a test to tone down the interaction back to social… hold it were you are, avoid shit like this, it’s a fun destroyer)
TVA: I mean we get labeled different things acting sexual, you girls labeled as sluts use men labeled as perve, but isn’t completely natural? It literally pisses me off that women are the most suppressed and get called out for being slutty!
HB: Yeah I hate it, it’s so unfair. And you guys, you are like what “cool” when you fuck many girls!
TVA: Yeah you girls are as horny as us, so you deserve the same rights!
HB: Definitely!
TVA: I think the problem is, most girls are hiding their sexual desire in order not being judged, afraid of what people think of you etc. but I think that’s the reason you girls get bad sex.
HB: Well yeah I feel dirty and regret it when I push it too far…
TVA: Why? Don’t we all have sex fantasies…? I mean you maybe more dirty things don’t you??
HB: I don’t know?
TVA: I think it’s important to be open minded!
HB: yeah!- TVA: Do you really mean it? Let’s say you love dominance, you know when someone smashes you into a wall (lead her slowly into the wall) look you deep in the eyes (look at her deep in the eyes) and grab your neck (grabbing her neck( and tells you… (go closer to her ear and whisper) “I will fuck so fucking hard because you make me so fucking horny”, would you really be open?
- HB: I dunno…
- TVA: maybe?
- Hb: maybe
- So I managed to get to her place with the excuse: Let’s grab a drink at your place, we can’t just leave such a good conversation, and you are a little cute as well.
- Then at her place I would start touching her, create some tension, tell her I want to lick some pussy and push her down and ask her to relax
And suddenly her husband came home she just had time to put her clothes on.
I don’t have a canned system; I usually talk about sex a lot and create a lot of tension. This is just an example from Friday.
- Other tips, a typical set up:
I think it’s good to reward with sexual intent, if worse I take a step back.
Then I will tell her what women use to like sexually that most men will judge her for. Then tell her that I can’t understand that since I get turned on by it. Then, when I mention the different things women enjoy, I will find out which of them she likes the most and from there I can tell her a story which I have done something similar and then debate from it. This is the usually thing. Then out of the blue I will ask where she lives, and then tell her we are going there for keep talking about this interesting topic. I would avoid her resistance, and ask again 10 minutes later. Usually it seems to work out. This is a good set up
Do you have a favorite technique or routine you use more than others?Yapp, It’s telling a girl straightly into her ear what i want to do with her and make her tell me what she want to do with me. It turns me on so much. But sadly you need to escalate to vibe to a really sexual one in order to make it happen. Also isolation should be considered.
If you could teach a guy three things to become a great seducer, what would it be?
Huum that question is easy:
Enjoy what you are doing – Most guys just enjoy the outcome but not the process to get to the outcome. They hate gaming; they just like to get sex. I love both. I love gaming them the way I do and I love fucking them too. Win win.
Find out what you can provide – Why should a girl be with you. Barely any guys can answer this question. Find out what you can give her that makes you unique? Most guys have no idea. Man, how do you want to get her if you got nothing to give in return? Most guys just answer: “Well I will love her” Sure that’s a good thing, but usually thousands of others guy are saying the same shit. If you know what you can give, you got bigger chances to project it.
The last thing is to go out a lot. I mean, I haven’t been reading much material which has really helped me. In fact you got to go out. Push your comfort zone. This is key, especially your sexual comfort zone. It will increase your sexual confidence. You will be more comfortable touching, or being sexual. Rejection is good thing; it will make you more calibrated in the future. Man I have been blown out a lot hehehe. After all, when you get blown out, you become more calibrated, and when it works you become more confident with the technique. So both are a really good thing. And the cool thing is that infield; you can either win or fail. It’s win win. When you win, try to find out why you won, but be careful, it’s easy to fall into mental masturbation. One way to find out if its mental masturbation or not is going out a few times and try out the same thing as you did previously and see if it works. If it really doesn’t work, then it must be something else that gave you the lay that time you were successful. If you fail, find out why you failed, and find out what you can do to make it better. That way you will become good really fast.
When diagnosing your previous time out, there is a few things that come in handy when you want to diagnosing:
*Logistics – Can be a reason alone for a lay. Was it good? Bad? How much did it matter?
*Her – Sexually closed? Open minded? In state?
*The surrounding – Her friends? How were they? cockblocks?
*Your game – What did you do? Bad or good? What can you change?
*State – what was your state?This can help you model your game pretty well
What is your favorite book?
Book in general?
Sure!
My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday has been a huge inspiration when it comes to understand women. It kind of opened my eyes and made me do bigger searches. It’s fucking crazy when you see what women really like in bed. You know that innocent little girl you are fucking? She got all the good girl traits? Well she likes to be boned in the ass!
What’s most important to get laid?Sexual confidence. Most men are also sexually repressed. Be confident with your own sexuality.
I do believe this is key. How do you want to project that you are a good lover and in control if you are not sexually confident? Being sexually confident is key to give good sex. If you are not, then you are fucked .
Most guys are not sexually confident so this can help you seem like a special price.
In order to be sexually confident:
*Being direct with you intentions
*Be honest about your sexuality
*Don’t hide anything
*Be non judgmental
*Be open minded.I think sexual confidence is something girls can smell from a long distance. I think it’s also very powerful
What is a perfect pick up for you?
Well, perfect pick up?
Perfect girl, perfect vibe and perfect sex followed with a perfect interaction.
I walk up to a gorgeous chick who smiles and who is really cool. She is sexually open, we talk about sex, open up each other, share some crazy stories, make each other wet and make each other want each other even more. Then get an insane sexual tension going on with her, and a crazy round of sex. Then play some Xbox together.
Of course no resistance, no obstacles…
It breaks my heart, but this is the end of the interview… Any last words to the readers?
I just want to say that this have been a pleasure writing down some thoughts.
My last word would be: Don’t be a dumbass.
Learn to walk before running. I’ve heard some guys doing some extreme shit with girls without even nailing the skills of talking to a girl. You won’t have the sexual confidence to do it yet. So don’t for example touch a girl’s pussy out of nowhere just because I’ve had success with it before you can at least keep a conversation with a girl or gotten a few lays. I don’t want you to get any legal problems.
Take step by step and make it sicker for each time, just small movement forward to the insanity. Expand a bit each time you are out.Beside that, have a nice day
- Greetings from:
- The horniest teenager on earth.
Man, this was a great interview. Very instructive and very interesting. Reading this alone could change a lot of mindsets. Thank you TVA_Oslo.
And guys, please show your appriciation by rating and commenting the interview.
Much love, Rockstar <3
The worlds best opener (Openers part 5/7)
Hey guys…
If you read my last post about opinion openers, I’m sure you have been waiting for this one…
Good news, sir! It’s here
Before we go ahead. I just want to say that to focus too much on openers will be counter productive. If you rely on a canned opener to talk to strangers, you’re not where you want to be. But if you are a newbie, it’s genius to start with canned openers since it makes it easier for you to open and may also help you feel less nervous to approach. If you’re not a newbie but love to try new things, this is for you too.
One more thing … an opener will not give you the girl. The way you open is much more important than what you open with. Remember that about 80 percent of communication between two people is nonverbal. Your body language, your facial expressions, eye contact, your voice, how you feel, it’s extremely important to have this in place. Who you are as a person is what ultimately counts. The point with an opener is to give the woman a chance to talk to you. Give her a good first impression.That being said, some openers are better than others, and you get the best canned opener right now …
Are you excited? Motivated?
How about now?
Rockstar presents…:
The Do you know why you suck? opener.
(Inspired by the guy who inventet GM-style, Nathan S.)
ROCKSTAR: Do you know why you suck? (Push – break rapport)
HB: What? No … (You are guaranteed to get her attention, everybody wants to know why someone think they suck)
ROCKSTAR: Now I’ve been over here for five minutes, and you haven’t even said “Hi” once! * Smile * Are you shy or what? (Cocky funny – Pull + Qualifying)HB: Yes / No / Haha whatever.
From here you can go straight into qualifying. Example:
ROCKSTAR: Other than being extremely shy, are you a nice and interesting person too?
You can be creative with this too. Are there more girls, you can address the entire group: Do you know why you guys suck??! If a girl passes you, you can grab hold of her (dominant=good) and say: Do you know why you suck? You were just about to walk past me without saying “Hello”! Are you shy or what?
Let me tell you why this opener is the world’s best. It is simply because it communicates all the right things. The opener is a push pull. You are a little cocky, but also funny. You’re very confident if you go around expecting everyone to say “hi” to you, even if it’s a joke on your part, and she understands it. Self-confident and fun. You stand out from the crowd and you test her, not vice versa. Done correctly, this opener will give you instant attraction.
Just try it out guys, it’s my favorite for a reason. Just remember to be serious when you deliver the “Do you know why you suck? I have been standing over there for five minutes and you haven’t even said hello!” – line. Then you smile, so she understands you’re not totally serious. Be confident! Follow it up with anything. To introduce yourself is a good start.
Next post in the opener-series will be about situational openers. This post will give you great tools to open situational. And situational openers are the most natural way to start conversations too, i know you like that.
And hey, you will also get a little bonus in the end. The moral is; read my next post!Much love, Fredrik aka Rockstar.
Opinion openers (Openers part 4/7)
Hey hey hey!
In this circus of openers comes two openers I have used. I must say that I’m no longer a big fan of openers where you ask about women’s opinions on things. The reason for this is that it is not very natural for me. I just don’t care much about what women think about things, like for example who is lying most of women or men. Therefore, this is not natural for me and I’m not me when I ask such questions. So I made me an opener that would entertain me a bit. An opener that is slightly more playful and fits my personality better. When I made this I wanted an opener that was fun and informal at the same time, one that shows that you are a guy who is out on town to have fun and get to know new people.
The opener is field-tested all over the place and can be used in most situations.
There are several versions of this, but the point is to get a little discussion that creates many smiles and lots of imagination.
Introducing the first opener …
Behold … here comes …
The Disney opener!
- Hey guys! Did you read Donald Duck when you were young? Nice! I have a quick question for you(Time constraint). The answer to that question can change my life, so important that you are serious about this(intriguing) …
HB: Yeah, shoot!- Which one is most handsome; Donald Duck or Mickey Mouse(or the prettiest of Dolly and Minnie)?
HB: Haha, Donald.
- Why?
HB: blah blah
- Thanks, the reason I ask is that we had a discussion about this on a party and the guys managed to find out who is most sexy of Dolly and Minnie, but we could not quite agree on Donald and Mickey. We found out we wanted to have sex with one of the girls and get married with the other (To make her curious. She will most likely ask who the guys agreed upon, which allows you to embroider with a little humor), so if you had to have sex with either Mickey or Donald and marry the other, who would you fuck and who would you marry?
This is the opener. I have included some fun and facts about the Disney characters that underpins the choices we often end up with.
When the girls are wondering what the guys ended up with, you can talk about this:
Dolly: The girl is hot. She has a bouncing ass / tail. She is a typical pink girl (take a look at her ribbon), very sexual, she don’t even wear underwear. THAT in addition to the fact that she is dominant, cunning and cynical with the guys. Just look at how she treats Donald and Gladstone Gander. She plays with them. She is a player. Therefore, we would fuck her, but we’d never married her. Hot, but a slutty bitch.Minnie: This girl is wife material. She is very sweet, loyal, she is tough and quite romantic. In the same way that the ladies might want to choose Mickey for a husband because they can drag him along in the ears if he doesn’t behave, we choose Minnie for the same reason * simulate that you do Minnie from behind while holding her ears *. The problem with Minnie is that you must deal with her exhausting girlfriend for the rest of your life; Clarabelle Cow.
Donald: The man is the world’s biggest clod, but he’s also kind of a bad boy.
Mickey: Analytical and smart, catching bad guys, but he becomes boring as soon as he’s with Minnie.
This opener is playful. The mood is festive and high energy flows through the points. The opener can be discussed for a long time if desired. You have shown how cool humor you have, and you get to multithread about sex and relationships between men and women.
And EVERYBODY like Donald & CO, at least the woman of your dreams
The second opener is an opener I’ve been using on day game. It’s a kind of opener I mentioned in the introduction that I do NOT like to use, but still, it’s a very good opener, because it make the girls invest a lot. The con about it, is that it is a lie from beginning to end, but again, it’s only an opener. We don’t open to speak to the girl, but so the girl will have an opportunity to talk with you and get to know you.
With no further ado …
The Gift opener
- Hey! Quick question. I want to buy a gift for a friend of mine, and I have no idea what to buy. I need help. What can a guy get for a girlfriend? What would you have wanted from a male friend?
She will often come with tips that are a little romantic. Like jewelry and other typical girlfriend gifts. Here I’ll continue to lie to get her to invest more and to show her that other women find me attractive.
- Jewellery? Ok, I can’t buy it … it’s a little cruel, you see, a month ago, my girlfriend got drunk and told me she was interested in me … and I just want her as a friend. I don’t want to give her false hope … I can’t have her misinterpret that I like her as anything other than a friend.
Again, it’s just a lie, but it works well because you show that you’re a guy who has friends, which provides social value, you care about your friends, which shows that you are caring, your girlfriend is in love with you , which shows that you are a preselected man. That is a man that other women want. And the girls want what the other girls want, so that’s always an advantage. You have probably noticed that boys with women are more attractive than single guys.
In the next post I’ll give you my favorite opener. I ‘m not kidding, it’s THE WORLDS BEST OPENER!
The opener comes right into your lap in a short amount of time if you keep yourself posted.
There are some who believe that “Hello” is the world’s best opener. I really disagree. A good opener is an opener that makes it easy for you to start a conversation with the girl. The world’s best opener will do this plus it creates instant attraction.
How about that?!
Dolly: Dama er jævla fin. Hun har DEN sprettrumpa/stjerten. Hun er typisk rosa jente(se sløyfa hennes), kjempeseksuell, pluss at hun går uten truse. DET i tillegg til at hun er dominerende, utspekulert og kynisk, slik hun holder på med Donald og Anton. Hun leker med dem. Hun er en player. Derfor ville vi gutta hatt sex med henne, men vi ville aldri giftet oss med henne. Hot, men tøs.
Minni: Denne jenta er konemateriale til tusen. Hun er kjempesøt, lojal, hun har bein i nesa og er relativt romantisk. På samme måten som damene kanskje vil velge Mikke til mann fordi de kan dra han litt i ørene, velger vi Minni av nesten samme årsak *simuler at du tar Minni bakfra mens du holder henne i ørene*. Problemet med Minni er jo at du må hanskes med den slitsomme venninna hennes resten av livet; Klara Ku.
Donald: Mannen er verdens største kløne, men samtidig veeeldig bad boy.
Mikke: Analytisk og smart, fanger skurker, men verdens største fløtepus og blir umiddelbart kjedelig sammen med Minni.
Denne åpneren er playful. Stemningen blir festlig og high energy strømmer igjennom meningene. Åpneren kan diskuteres veldig lenge dersom det er ønskelig. Du får vist hvor kul humoren din er og du får multithreadet om sex og forhold mellom kvinner og menn.
Og ALLE liker Donald & CO, iallefall drømmedama di
Interview with Cosy (TheCostOfSuccess)
Wohooo!
I got a brand new interview for you guys!
This is the most poetic interview I’ve done. Hehe. Cosy is interesting.
I asked TVA_Oslo, a Norwegian PUA, what he thinks about Cosy and he said he was very cool, and had mad game. I had to interview him. He’s one of the stars on MASF, and now he’s here, just for you guys.
He describes himself as a travelling Don Juan.
I’m a polymath, meaning I am a kind of renaissance man. Meaning I study
all things, skills, sciences, sports, philosophies, poetry..
Kinda like davinci, but a bit different, in that I’m a seducer.I’m probably most skilled in martial arts, having 3 black belts..
I was popular in my days on forums because of my wild field reports, and
the fact that I pulled girls in seconds, minutes, sometimes without a
word.
The experiences I described sounded so out of this world, that some were
inspired, others were questioning.Either way, I went around, and people said it was all for real.
I’m more than just seduction to tell the truth
Cool guy, huh?!
This is Cosy everybody! Enjoy!
How was your life with women before you started with structured game?
I’ve never been one to do structured game to be honest and I still don’t
do it now. I guess thats part of my appeal. This wild animalistic man,
whom looks into the girls soul and knows just how to make it come alive.
Its just that approach that makes me unique and alluring.Before I started with women, I suppose my younger years, I was always too
nervous to make the move. I thought girls liked me, but never had the
courage to do much more than fleeting eye contact or an occasional smile.
Eventually though, I started talking to girls, but because people around
me weren’t that supportive ’say what? No! She isn’t interested in you..
like at all’ I went and did some things undercover at first. Just in
shopping malls and beaches.
I was a bit of a clutz, (a bit clumsy) and being nervous, my cheeks would
flush red and my voice would waver occasionally, when I was trying to be
confident and strike up good conversation. But before long I met some cool
people.What is it like now?
Well, its hard to describe how my life with women is now.
Its like, I am constantly reminded by a mass of memories that are too hard
to remember all at once. Memories that flood my mind at times, too sweet
and too warm to not let a small smile rise upon the edge of my lips.Its like I’ve seen another world, been something else.. And it always
calls me back. Its like Leonardo Davinci once said ‘Once you have flown,
you will forever more, live your life looking to the heavens, where once
you were a great eagle’When I walk down a street, people may move out of my way, girls may
flutter their eyes. However, its more than that..
Its almost as if the world smiles back at me, and the way it can reach me,
is through small moments.I can remember walking down the street and I felt horrible. I drew my coat
in tight, and let my hair fall infront of my eyes, as I looked down,
slipping anonomously through my tasks I had to do that day. And in a
moment, there was something in the air.. I didn’t quite know what..
I stopped and I turned, lifting my eyes, and there was a woman beaming a
smile, who took my hands.. And with that, I remembered again who I was…To me, small moments like that mean everything.
I don’t so much remember all the faces quite like you’d expect..
Sometimes, what is immortalised in my mind, is a woman, whose gaze I only
caught once..Life for me, after the touch of seductions affectionate hold, is all the
more beautiful for it. I am eternally changed, in ways I cannot say, more
than ones I can. And sometimes I fear, I am changed in ways only the
future will tell.How would you define your game?
I wouldn’t define my game. I know it too well, and know its too alive to
really ever capture with just one sentence.
I actually treat it more like a little puppy. I feed him, play with him,
treat him cool, and then sometimes.. It just does things so far beyond
your imagination, without even knowing it yet, just smiling and panting,
wagging its little tail.
Most people can’t believe what they see me do, nor can they easily define
it. And in this same way, I also treat it.. And in that time it does
something really amazing, its often it feels so natural and so right, that
its like the impossible things happening, are what is normal and natural.Some say, that my game, is a kind of purity that displays a window into
the way the world can truly be. Thats if they know it well enough..Most people live their life, ASSURED that one thing is going to be
followed by another. There is no mystery in their world anymore.
However, to me, if I see a woman in a bar.. I don’t just see a good
figure, a dress, and an attitude.I see the potential of a woman so great, that I could not even whisper but
what she is. So as I peer over to the woman, I do so with a knowing. A
knowing that perhaps behind those eyes lies something so much more.
So I draw her closer, I touch her skin, I kiss her lips, and in doing so,
see right through her, like a chilled mountain wind sees through the
caverns and valleys through which it flows.In the soul of her eyes, in the caress of her breath, I see so much more.
Do you have a favorite technique or routine you use more then others?
Its true that most people use routines, and techniques. Perhaps thinking
there is no more to seduction than what meets the eye. So ofcourse the
only way to progress, is a technique, or another routine, or something
clever to say.
The cliche is ‘just say hi’.Well, for me, I’m not going out to pick up girls. I take pleasure in a
womans presence, because of what it allows me to feel.
I can be myself with them, I can let out, all that is me, in those
moments, near her, with her, around her.
And I pay her in return, by looking into her, and seeing what nobody else
can.As for techniques;
- Look out to the horizon
- Spin the girl
- Take her hand
- Pull her in a little closer
- Act like its the first time you’ve met her (especially if its not)
Old basics I’m sure.
If you could teach a guy three things to become a great seducer, what
would it be?I was talking to a guy in a boxing gym, not too long ago, and he asked
‘What is the most common mistake.. Something you would say most guys do,
that is really stupid’.
I laughed and came in a little closer.I began to speak with a hushed voice, indicating some sense of secrecy..
And I began to distract him with other things. For my tips.. Are things
you cannot simply just say..
They are things you can only whisper, even a feathers touch louder, and
they vanish, destroyed by the crudeness of thought and analysis.So I began to tell him, that seduction isn’t something men should readily
get into, thinking that its about picking up girls. Seduction is something
that no matter what your choice is in life, marriage, monogamy,
polyamorousity, it can make it all the more richer.I said to him, that in each case, each situation, a person would always
gain, from noticing a little more in small moments. So with a wife, or
women as a whole, just that glimmer in the eyes now and then. Just that
glow to the touch.. That is seduction, and it has nothing to do with your
choices of what to do with it.As such, seduction is a very beautiful thing, and one of the greatest
things about it, is that you don’t have to do more of it than you want to.
Find the right girl, that will explore those moments with you, more than
others would… And you will find what we all look for, great or small in
the eyes of seduction. A partner, in whom you can trust, who would be
worth the power and life that you infuse in them with your touch.Top three things, is they should relax, take advantage of the moment and
enjoy it, be in it to create a good experience for both parties.What’s your view on seduction?
My view on seduction, is that there is another world within this one.
Something rarely seen, but just as true and as real as the one most see.
Seduction has given me insight into greater ways the world can be..
And has left me beyond inspired.Its difficult to describe the painful love I feel for seduction. I’ve been
in relationships, and never have I ever felt this way about anything.
How cool is that!I’ve heard you are a God when it comes to sexual tension… How do you
create sexual tension?
Before I came along, I’d never even heard of sexual tension. Now it seems
everyone is hearing about it. No doubt, directly filtering from my
influence, like a rivers flow from the highest point, where the rain falls
and inriches the land.
In a way, I’m grateful that I do not have to spread the word of something
so benificial to peoples lives, and am okay with the way it has spread,
but also there is a story to how I came up with the word and the concepts
inherent to it.You see, sexual tension, as I have made it become, is far more than the
weak word it once was. Describing simply a moment of suspense in a movie.
For you see, it was something that to me, was unnameable for such a long
time.
For years I seduced women, without knowing what those moments were, or
even being capable of identifying them.Sometimes I thought I was just being nuts, talking about it.
But generally, sexual tension flows, when a situation is more natural and
spontaneous.There was one day, when I was walking across the other side of the street
from a drunk woman walking home. Watching over her, as drunk men pursued
her. Making certain she would not be raped, (as just weeks before in this
same spot, I had come across a rape and stopped it).
I felt like ‘oh come on.. not again..’ as I walked across the other side
of the street. I called the police, so they could take the situation off
my hands, and watched over until they arrived.
Eventually a woman passed me by, stopped.. Turned, and began to speak to
me, and we casually spoke for a while. It was just so pleasant because I
really appreciated her helping me get my mind off what I was doing and
make it all seem more casual.
Anyways, the police arrived, and I turned to her.. And in those few
moments, the first time I gazed down at her.. It was like something else.
It was as though distance no longer existed, as I realised how gorgeous
she was smiling up at me. How her breasts felt up against me..We fell into each others kiss, and I was driven passionately, into her.
And we ravished each other, like I had never done so before.That was the moment I really started to understand it, and named it sexual
tension.
IT WAS REAL.
I began to see all the moments before me, all the seductions…
And realised it was a common theme amongst all of them.And with that, the invisible and elusive sexual tension, something that
most have felt but never thought of, was given its name.Ok…interesting, I didn’t know that, but how can a guy create sexual tension between himself and the girl?
Its something I go on about in my book, so I don’t want to spill too many
details. Its also very VERY complicated and intricate. A great boxer
cannot simply teach such things with one sentence.
However there are small tendencies that arise as tension is being created
that might illustrate some things.
Like for example, edging in towards a woman ever so slightly, without a
feeling of forcing it, but an allure or a movement of the eyes or lips,
preceeding it.
Again its something I go into in my book.
Do you have any tips for guys who struggle with LMR (- Last Minute
Resistance)?My tip with last minute resistance is to relax.. Hold a woman.. Enjoy each
others company, and if you both so happen to fall into a kiss. Don’t rush.
Relax.I’ve seen you have this amazing book you have written. Please tell us
about it.Well, the book is about how there are principles of seduction, that weave
together to make things attractive. Dynamic, adaptive, interconnected
principles, that do more than just make one attractive, but manifest the
very images and experiences we hold in our minds into reality.
These principles are in nature all around us, and with the book, I explain
the seductiveness of all things indirectly, and introduce people to the
true mystique of seduction.
Its my last words on seduction. I don’t give tips, or advice clearly
anymore, and thats because I did it all in that book.
I was just fed up with people asking me, haha, about my views on
seduction. I felt like a broken record, and still nobody understood.
So I wrote the book, so that people could understand like never before, my
views.
It is my last words on seduction. Or atleast.. The learning of it.
Within it, you will find touchings upon everything I would teach.The funny thing about the book is.. It has in it things I never wanted to
reveal.. Secrets, hidden deep in my subconscious, from other things aswell
as seduction (being a polymath). These secrets, for a while confounded me
as to why they were there, and with them the book took on a whole new
life, and became mysterious even to me. I didn’t really want to publish
it. But in the end, decided to, on a knifes edge because I felt an ounce
more than my desire for secrecy, that for a few it would inspire them so
powerfully that greatness might be opened in their hearts.I’m a sucker for beautiful things. And the sight and image of that lone
man or woman finding my book and having their breath taken away.. Well..
I figured..
Gah!
You got me.. I’ll let it out of my hands.How can we get our hands on it?
Go to my website www.whatwefindattractive.com
There is a section there where to buy the book.
It will redirect you to amazon, inwhich you can buy the book from.
Its name is What We Find Attractive: The Mystique Of Seduction
By Taylor Truth.This is it, as Michael Jackson would have said it. Any last words to the
readers?The greatist advice I can give is.. Buy and read the book.
I’m not joking.
Get your hands on it.
Even if you have to sell your bike, auction something off on ebay.
You have no idea what that book is really worth. NONE and its impossible
to describe, until you have read it for the first time, and actually seen
it in ALL of its glory.Kinda sucky for me as the guy that gets paid. But its impossible to
describe just what is hidden in those pages.And as a final piece of advice. The way you read it matters.
The book itself, fluxes.. It changes, it ebbs and flows.
If you have the right mind when you read it.. It will be so earth
shattering to you, that you might just be spooked and find it hard to keep
reading.However, if you go at it, with no care, clumsily reading only what shouts
at you, and not hearing the subtle whispers of interconnected meaning, you
will still find an interesting and kick ass read.So the greatist secret is.. There is more to this book if you read it
right. And if you manage to do that.. You gain utterly priceless
information.A book has NEVER been written like this before.
And also, since this is my last chance to say it.. I am looking for
remarkeable people. The kind that have something unbelievable hidden in
them somewhere, maybe they don’t even know it. So if you are one of them,
haha, don’t even know why I ask this, its unlikely to work, I want to hear
from you, contact me through my web.Thank you so much Cosy! I would really like to meet you btw, coming to Norway any day soon?
I may always return.. But it is unknown to me whether I will return to
norway. However, if there are enough who will attend a meeting with me, or
a seminar, I would meet with those guys and give a brief talk and Q and A
for them. Any girls are welcome too. Couples aswell.
To get me to do that, its something I’d find fun if I had heaps of support
and encouragement. Like signing up to my website and contacting me, and
telling me you’d be interested in such a thing and encouraging me to do
it.After all, I’m kinda like a puppy. Whip it, and it just looks all sad.
Encourage it, and wagging its tail, it happily gives.Great! Check out his website for more info on the book.
Any questions to Cosy, or comments for the interview, feel free to comment! What? What was that question? Yes, of course you can rate the interview too!
<3 Rockstar
Ross Jeffries has a message to Norway!
Hey guys!
Ross is coming to Norway this summer as you read in THIS interview. He has a little video made up for you. Yeah, for YOU!
Check it out!
A post about when and how much it will cost will come. I can say right away that it will be in the end of Juli.
<3
Interview with Jordan Harbinger
Hey Hey you sexy people who like to read my interviews!
Today I have an interesting guy for you.
JORDAN HARBINGER!
If you don’t know about him you should start paying attention in school. The school of pickup that is.
This is what Wikipedia has to say about him:
Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert. In 2007 Harbinger co-founded The Art of Charm, a New York & Los Angeles based service company specializing in dating coaching for men and women. (…) He currently co-hosts The Art of Charm presents Game On on Sirius XM Satellite Radio.[5] In addition, he co-hosts a bi-weekly show called the Pickup Podcast with AJ Harbinger.
This guy is very successful, he’s funny, super cool and has a lot to offer. I’m proud to have him right here for you guys. And just so you know, PickUp Podcast gets over 1,000,000 downloads/year! Sick? I certainly think so!
Let’s get to it, shall we?
How was your life with women before you started with structured game, Jordan?
Before I started with ‘structured game’, so-to-speak, I actually had decent luck with women. Namely, good-looking, nice girls, chose me to be their boyfriend. That said, I never had choice with women, and once I was in a relationship, I would allow the girl to take control and I’d became needy, pushing her away from me. I also had trouble making friends, as I was VERY quiet and shy.
Very quiet and shy no more, huh?
Now, I’ve got confidence like I’ve never dreamed of. I have no problem making more friends than I can handle, and the networking skills that we’ve developed and teach here at The Art of Charm have skyrocketed our business more than I could hope to explain here.
How would you define your game?
My ‘game’ is super simple and very natural. What we teach at AoC doesn’t require you to memorize anything and it’s more of a subtractive process (removing insecurities) and not an additive process (adding fake layers to your personality to make you more interesting to women).
You see a girl you’re attracted to in the bar. How would you pick her up?
I’d probably be talking to everyone I cross paths with in the bar and, if I’ve been there before, probably already know the bartender and other staff so may well be chatting with them as well. Most of the time, women notice my presence in the bar and are drawn to it. I tend to be pretty boisterous and charismatic due to having taught this stuff for so long, and often the women will come near me hoping I’ll talk to them. If they don’t, I’ll simply carry on talking to everyone until she makes eye contact or comes my way. If for some reason she’s not giving me any attention, I might just come right up to her and her friends and introduce myself or include them on my banter with others. I essentially become so social that I can’t be ignored. haha
Do you have a favorite technique or routine you use more then others?
Here at The Art of Charm we’re staunchly against routine-based ‘game’. Having routines or developing a social persona to impress people is just like putting on a mask. It drives a wedge between you and others and makes it MUCH harder for them to find and get to know the real you. What we teach is how to UN-mask yourself so that your authentic side shows though much more clearly, which is naturally more attractive to others.
As far as a ‘technique’ for you guys to start ‘using’ right away, I’d say the key is to go out and be social with EVERYONE, ALL DAY LONG. At work, your family, on the train, etc. That way, when you see someone you’re interested in, you don’t have to “get in state” or try to “turn it on” and fight through the nerves. It’s just like working out any set of muscles. You want to go hardest when you’re already warm, not try to go from a nap to a full sprint. If you stay social all day, you’ll be ready to go at a moment’s notice, namely, when you see someone you’re interested in.
If you could teach a guy three things to become a great seducer, what would it be?
1) Be social all the time.
2) Strive to be your authentic self, always.
3) Leave everyone better than you found them. In other words, everyone should come away a better person for having crossed your path.
4) Go after your life’s purpose with passion -nothing’s more attractive than a man with ambition, purpose and drive.
Yeah yeah, that’s 4 things, but, as my grandma used to say, “tough kishka”.
We teach all of this, and more, at The Art of Charm and on our show, PickUp Podcast as well.
Hehe, “four things” kicks “three things” ass! What do you think is most important when it comes to getting a girl attracted to you?
You have to be comfortable in your own skin. Women can smell incongruence from a mile away. If you go out with an agenda that says you’re going to “get 10 phone numbers” or “try to get a girl to come home with you”, people can sense it. It shows through in your behaviours and mindset and comes across as creepy. If you go out with the intent to have a good time and meet as many people as possible (both guys AND girls), and you simply put yourself out there and then “turn the volume up to 11”, people will naturally be attracted to you. Be the party, bring the party, and others will join in.
Becoming comfortable with yourself is a process, and won’t happen overnight. The rewards, of course, are well worth the effort.
Do you think looks is important to attract women?
Of course. Good looks and style are important to women, although women place less emphasis on these factors than men do. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that looks are irrelevant, because they’re not. We can make the best of what we’re born with, and, fortunately for us as men, there’s a LOT to work with in terms of charisma and charm that can take us to the next level and help us overcome any perceived disadvantages.
You have one of the most awesome resources for guys who want to learn to be good with women. PickUp Podcast get over 1,000,000 downloads a year. That is sick! For the people who still haven’t checked this out, what is it all about?
Well, imagine having a mix of experienced mentors (dating coaches, entrepreneurs and other professional badasses) teaching you their expertise, packing decades of research, testing and tough lessons into a concise curriculum. Basically, with PickUp Podcast, we’ve created one of the premiere men’s lifestyle programs available anywhere, and it’s free. This is the show we wish we had a decade ago.
What’s you favorite book?
“How To Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. He’s the guy who started it all and all his stuff is amazing.
Ah, I love that book, my favorite too! We’re just about to cross the finish line…! Any last words to the readers?
I strongly suggest you guys get a steady feed of positive mindsets from solid mentors going so that you get pointed in the right direction. A good place to start is here: http://www.pickuppodcast.com/best
There you’ll find some of the top-rated PickUp Podcast episodes that new guys really love. From there, move on to the ‘toolbox’ episodes and start applying the stuff right away.
Thanks for having me on here. It’s been a pleasure!
It sure was a pleasure having you here too!
So guys, please leave a comment for Jordan. This is free value!
Next interview will be with a very special guy, called Cosy. Let’s just say the interview is special and leave it with that
Much love, ROCKSTAR
Functional openers (Openers part 3/7)
Hola Senorita!
These are very simple openers and used for my part, mostly in daygame. That’s because a functional opener is about you needing help with something. Help to know where something is, how to use somethong etc. This is the most natural opener to use at daytime. It is socially acceptable to ask strangers for directions to places or what time it is or when the next tram goes, therefore, people will also help you with this. In other words, you will go under the radar with these ones.
This is easy. Here comes five quick ones I’ve used a lot:
1. Hi! I’m going out to eat tonight and wonder if you know of any good restaurants?
I do not ask about a specific type of restaurant because she might give me a quick answer and I want the woman to invest as much as possible. It gives me namely the ability to be difficult. She says a pizza restaurant, I say that I am not thinking about pizza, but maybe something more towards Asian. Make sure to disagree a bit with her (break rapport). As a transition, you can have fun with hiring her as the new counselor or something, since she gives such great advice (more about this in the post about transitions).
2. Hey, you look like a lady who is known in town! I get a visit from some good friends tonight and thought I’d take them out. Where does it happen tonight? What is the best club to go to? Why?
3. How could I get from A to B?
4. (If something is going on) What happens here?
5. Hi! I have ten minutes to kill … You look creative. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do?
Are there any questions? Ask the ladies!
In the next post comes a funny opinion-opener you can enjoy at the cafes or pubs.
The Competition Opener (Openers part 2/7)
Welcome to another post about openers
I will share an opener I developed the summer 2008. I number closed 9 / 10 set on day game when I used it. This is a typical canned opener, based on nonsense. In this example, I’m so nice that I will include tips from opening till numberclose. So here you get the opener – the transition – and the close.
Remember that the point of an opening is just to open, to start a conversation. That said, some openeres are better than others. This means that some openers get the ladies to invest more in the interaction, some openers build more attraction than others.This opener is very good because you get time to display your personality in a playful way AND it makes the girls invest a lot.
Here it gooooes!Rockstar: Sorry to disturb you girls (To say sorry when you open on the streets is common courtesy and it builds comfort and shows social intelligence), but I have lost an idiotic competition to a buddy of mine and the punishment is to stop completely strangers on the street and make a fool out of myself … can I use you guys for that?
HB: YEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH !!!!
(Ok, maybe not always THAT enthusiastic;) but it has happened) What do you have to do?Here you can choose for yourself what you will do, a lot of crazy things to choose from if one is a little creative. How I did it:
Rockstar: I will either tell a joke or teach you something fun … what do you choose?
HB: Teach us something funny! / Tell the joke!
Rockstar: Okay, cool, but to prove that I actually did this to my friends I must record on my phone that you do not know me (this to make routine credible). So I put on the recorder and ask: Do you know me, girls? (Comfort building and they invest)
HB: Noooooo
Rockstar: Great. I will teach you The Clapping Game/ thumb war. * teaching them * (Kino + leading = attraction)
Ok, this is the opener. To teach something is the best, because then you get a lot of free
opportunities to kino and busting/teasing / break rapport. What I also like to do after I have tought them the clapping game or thumb war, is to compete with them. Let’s see if you can beat me girls. I’ll bet you’ll suck!We all know girls love competitions
To tell a joke is also great. I recommend telling a joke which last a couple minutes because you then get the chance to show what a cool guy you are through the story and they invest time in you. Always get the girl to invest. It’s also building comfort. They laugh at the joke = comfort. Thing is that I tell a relatively bad joke, but I say in advance that they will have to laugh, otherwise I get the penalty approved and I have to tell one more, until they start laughing, something they will not, cause my jokes suck. I say this to force a laugh out of them, which is funny in itself.
Key to all openers are of course transtition. I will write a post about this later. Hint: Statements.
I often close with a variant of this line:
Rockstar: You are very friendly (give them a role to live up to). I like that (reward, if the vibe is there, I give them a high five too). Most people in Oslo are quite arrogant and boring. Are you always this friendly (qualifying)?
HB: Yes!
Rockstar: (to qualify more; ask if they are cool or something similar) NICE! (Reward) I’ll adopt you. You are my new best friends/BFF! * Reaches out hand * My name is Rockstar! (Comfort) What is the best way to stay in touch?
HB: Facebook / Number
Now it is obviously a factor that we have things like body language and such in order so you will be seen as an alpha and attractive guy. This is not a magic pill, but it gives you shortcuts to show off your fun personality and make the girls trust and like you.
Enjoy it, especially those of you who enjoys day game.
Next post about openers in a couple of days!
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