Interview with Sleazy

August 11, 2010 // 6 Comments »

Heeey guys! Long time no see!

I’ve got a new interview for you.

Aaron Sleazy has been making an impact in the seduction community since
early 2008, when he began devoting himself to seduction. He got very good
within a rather short period of time. Within a few months he regularly pulled
girls home from the clubs. But he didn’t stop there: Less than one year later,
he became infamous for his frequent bathroom pulls and his ability to seduce
women literally within minutes, often while exchanging hardly any words.

Would you like to read an interview with this guy? Well, hold on to your chair and keep reading!

How was your life with women before you started with structured game?

If you look up my posting history, you might get the impression that my
development is one of those rags to riches stories where a nerd managed
to overcome all odds to eventually succeed with women. However, such an
interpretation not only leaves out a lot, it’s also misleading. Before stumbling
across the community, I was focussed on my academic training and didn’t really
have women on my mind. At the time, I was giving presentations at Oxford
and Cambridge, among other places. That I would publicly speak on seduction
some years later is at best one of life’s ironies.

Back then I considered women to be a distraction towards reaching my goals,
which was the main reason why I didn’t pursue them. Apart from that, however,
I was a pretty well-adjusted guy, social and in decent shape. Naturally, once
I made a conscious effort to get girls, I became good at breakneck speed.
This was not because I had to “learn game”, but simply because my life was
very well balanced before. I also knew enough about fashion and had a well-
rounded personality overall.

When I discovered “structured game”, however, I only shook my head in
disbelief and took none of those people seriously, be it Ross Jeffries, David
DeAngelo or whoever else. First of all, from going out in clubs, I knew which
kind of guy pulled girls, and they looked nothing like those Internet marketers.
Instead of listening to the theories some people pulled out of thin air, I began
to go out and learn things on my own, seeing that what was out there in terms
of marketing and “seduction science” was in the best case overcomplicated
and misleading in the worst. My own experiences were much different from
what community lore tries to make you believe, which is one of the reasons
why “PUAs” don’t really appear on my list of influences.

Have you ever heard of Occam’s razor? So, what is more plausible — that
there is a hugely complicated model for seduction that takes years to learn
so that you as a man are finally able to manipulate a girl to have sex with
you, or that women are sexual beings in the first place that don’t need much
convincing. Or why do you think they wear tight clothes, show off their cleavage
and parade their legs and asses?

What is it like now?

I’m in a relationship with a gorgeous Swede, which means that I am retired
from “game”, but I’ll give you a glimpse: I reached a level considered “good” in
the summer of 2008. From that point onward, until about one year later, when
I got into my current relationship, my love life was extraordinary. It was rare for
me to see less than three women simultaneously. I regularly pulled girls from
the club, and since this got relatively boring for me after a few months, I began
to really push the boundaries and explored with how much you could get away
with in those venues. It emerged that there were seemingly no limits. Weeks
later I had literally one bathroom pull after another, and seduced girls without
using any words — or, to be more specific: there were plenty of instances
where the first thing I said was, “Mmm, that’s good!”. I’ll let you imagine the
context.

However, after about a year and a half in the “game”, I began to get really
bored because I had achieved everything I wanted (and more), and I certainly
don’t belong to the group of people that willingly endures repetition. At one
point you’ll feel as if you’ve just seen it all.

How would you define your game?

I don’t believe in “game”. All those pickup companies try to sell you the idea
that “game” is the great equalizer that, no matter how you look, how popular
you are, how old you are, and how little money you have, will get you “strippers
and supermodels”, as those sales letters love to wax lyrical about. However, if
you look what’s going on around you, you will be hard-pressed to find a case
where an ugly gnome pulls Scandinavian models off the catwalk. My “game” is
deeply rooted in reality, not theory, which is why it follows three simple steps:

1) Find your scene or environment
2) Focus on receptive girls
3) Don’t fuck it up

This is also what I focused on when I had the time to coach the occasional
client, and it’s also the reason why I had to turn some people down. I also
asked for a personal history and some pictures, and if I saw that the guy
completely neglected his body for over a decade and now turned to me with the
wish to learn how to have sex in night clubs within minutes, I told them to get a
reality check and start hitting the gym. In fact, if guys would simply start taking
better care of themselves, most of their problems would be solved. Thus, I don’t
really see any justification for the existence of the “seduction industry”.

You see a girl you’re attracted to in the bar. How would you pick her up?

It depends. If she is in a deep conversation with her girlfriend, I’d just let them
talk and look for some other girl. On the other hand, if she looks as if she
needed some entertainment, I might just walk up to her and literally pick her
up and take it from there. Then I’d feel out where she is at. If she is sufficiently
horny, then I’d take her into the bathroom, if this is possible in the venue, or, if
not, tell her to get her stuff so that we can leave.

Now you might think that I am a braggart who exaggerates or leaves out
everything, but the vast majority of my pick-ups took much less than 30
minutes. I will spare you some actual numbers, because your readers would not
believe them anyway. I mean, think of it: how long does it take you to decide
that you would fuck a certain girl? If you are anything like me, you’d say it’s a
few seconds at most. And guess what: Why should girls be any different from
us guys?

Do you have a favorite technique or routine you use more then others?

In my opinion, focussing on techniques and routines is not only a complete
waste of time but actually counter-productive. Anything that makes you analyze
a situation, hoping to find the ideal situation for your little routine, will sabotage
you. So, it’s best to just get out of your head.

If you could teach a guy three things to become a great seducer, what would
it be?

Becoming a “great seducer” is a pretty lofty goal, isn’t it? As I see it, the vast
majority of guys in this “community” want to either lose their virginity, get laid
every once in a while or finally get a girlfriend. (Sadly, the same seems to apply
to the incompetent “professional instructors” I’ve seen so often in London.)
Hardly anybody wants to become a “great seducer”, which is good because
while probably any guy could get laid, or get laid more often, becoming a “great
seducer” is elusive for most. The whole “you can become anything you want”
mantra is at best a cliche but nothing you should actually believe. It’s fine
if people want to build castles in the sky and dream of a world in which the
Horatio Alger myth is a reality, while being blind to what is really going on in
front of their door. That’s not my problem.

In reality, if guys would just get in shape, get some decent clothes, recognize
which girls are into them and act accordingly, they would get enough girls. After
all, girls want to have sex, too. True, fixing your life and getting in shape can be
hard work, and in our obese times, for many it will be hard work. But after all is
said and done, there is no way around it. Some seemingly need to shell out a
few grand for a “boot camp” to figure out after a year or so that “being social”
doesn’t get you laid and the only thing that does is what we have all known
before: looks, connections, money.

What do you think is most important when it comes to getting a girl attracted
to you?

Sorry, I just spilled my drink… You can’t get a girl attracted to you if she isn’t
attracted to you to some extent from the very beginning. This is one of the
major fallacies (lies) of the community. The key aspects are thus to know which
kind of girl you want to attract, to become the kind of guy they want (which
is largely a matter of fashion and style), and to show up. However, it is not
possible to “get any girl you want” — quoted from roughly one thousand sales
letters in this ridiculous industry. If there were some magic steps, I wonder why
the people that teach pickup full-time get rejected all the time. After all, they

should know what to do, shouldn’t they?

I’ve heard you are extremely good at picking up women at the dance floor.
How do you do this?

I simply walk up to girls I find attractive (and of whom I can sense that find me
attractive, too), take their hand, pull them in and make out with them. Then I’ll
take it somewhere else. This process doesn’t involve magic.

Do you have any tips for guys who struggle with SNL(same night lays)?

This depends on what those guys are actually capable of. After all, there are
guys out there that haven’t gotten laid in years and fantasize about suddenly
being able to pull girls home the same night. But you better learn to walk before
you try to run. That being said, “same night lays” are actually easier than the
usual community-endorsed phone number/date sequence because time is your
enemy. If the girl is into you right there and then, then just leave with her.

Guys who are struggling with “same night lays” usually have no idea
how “game” really works. Sadly, this includes plenty of professional instructors,
including plenty of big names I have seen in action in London. They walk
around, “unload their routine stack” on girls, get a number a few minutes later
and do it all over again with the next girl. But what they don’t realize is that a
phone number is not worth much at all. In many cases, and certainly in most of
those I have witnessed of this sad bunch of guys, the women gave them their
phone number only to get rid of them. Thus, they have it all wrong: If she has
a legitimate reason not (!) to leave with you, then and only then, you go for the
number.

I know you have a cool and entertaining book with stories about you in the
field, could you tell us about it?

Sure. Sleazy Stories: Confessions of an infamous modern Seducer of Women

is a collection of my craziest adventures of 2008. It ends with what I had
considered the pinnacle of pick-up. As I said before, in early 2008 I began to
focus on seduction. Initially, I was nothing more than a somewhat outgoing guy
that got the occasional make-out, I quickly became renowned for my exploits in
night clubs.

At first I thought it would be great to just once have a “same night lay,” but I
quickly found those encounters to be rather boring, so I began to push the
boundaries, trying to figure out what was possible. Could I get a hand job on
the dance floor? How quickly can I get sexual with girls? What is possible
in public spaces? Can you have sex with women without talking to them?

Those and more questions are answered in Sleazy Stories. It’s not an
instructional manual, even though many people have found it to be not only
very entertaining, but also very insightful, as it offers a rare perspective on a
facet of male/female interactions.

Where can we find the book?

You can buy the book online, for instance on Amazon.com for $12.55
(http://www.amazon.com/dp/3942017008/ref=nosim?tag=aaronslcom-20)

or on Amazon.co.uk for £7.59
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/3942017008/ref=nosim?tag=aaronslcom-20

For people outside the US or UK, The Book Depository is probably the best
option because they offer free international shipping:
http://www.bookdepository.com/book/9783942017008/Sleazy-Stories/?
a_aid=aaron_sleazy

Sleazy Stories can also be ordered in regular book stores. The ISBN is 978-3-
942017-00-8.

Well, I only got one more question for you! Any last words to the readers?

I’ve got one last message for your readers: Getting laid is no big deal. The

sooner you accept this, the better it will be for you because then you can focus
on more important things in life. I mean, when I hang out with my friends, we
barely ever talk about girls because we just get laid, and it’s not because we
are “naturals” — which is one of the most ridiculous concepts of the community.
We all get laid and nobody makes a big deal out of it. Some of those guys have
pulled 5-somes and I think it’s interesting, but nothing I feel like emulating.
On the other hand, they’ve seen me over and over pulling girls into bathrooms
after minutes, and hardly comment on it either. After all, some of them have
had similar experiences. And then I write about some of my encounters and
half of the people refuse to believe such is possible… This tells you a lot about
the people in this community. Sometimes you get the impression that people
consider sex to be a myth. But having sex is the most natural thing on earth.
However, when you look at the community it seems that you suddenly need a
PhD if you want to get your dick wet. But how much is there to know about it?
It’s not a lot, really.

Thanks man!

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Much love, Rockstar<3

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