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Functional openers (Openers part 3/7)
Hola Senorita!
These are very simple openers and used for my part, mostly in daygame. That’s because a functional opener is about you needing help with something. Help to know where something is, how to use somethong etc. This is the most natural opener to use at daytime. It is socially acceptable to ask strangers for directions to places or what time it is or when the next tram goes, therefore, people will also help you with this. In other words, you will go under the radar with these ones.
This is easy. Here comes five quick ones I’ve used a lot:
1. Hi! I’m going out to eat tonight and wonder if you know of any good restaurants?
I do not ask about a specific type of restaurant because she might give me a quick answer and I want the woman to invest as much as possible. It gives me namely the ability to be difficult. She says a pizza restaurant, I say that I am not thinking about pizza, but maybe something more towards Asian. Make sure to disagree a bit with her (break rapport). As a transition, you can have fun with hiring her as the new counselor or something, since she gives such great advice (more about this in the post about transitions).
2. Hey, you look like a lady who is known in town! I get a visit from some good friends tonight and thought I’d take them out. Where does it happen tonight? What is the best club to go to? Why?
3. How could I get from A to B?
4. (If something is going on) What happens here?
5. Hi! I have ten minutes to kill … You look creative. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do?
Are there any questions? Ask the ladies!
In the next post comes a funny opinion-opener you can enjoy at the cafes or pubs.
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Welcome!
Bankbank said...
1An okay tool box, but what I kinda miss is some suggestions for making transitions sound/feel/be natural (okay, I understand it’s a series of different openers, so it would be “wrong” to put it in). Should I suddenly jump into a thumb war?
The reason for asking, is that – I believe it was in an interview by David DeAngelo – Mystery commented on the horrible “opener” “you’ve got the time?”. The girl tells the time, and the guy says something like “okay, thanks. By the way… (etc)”. Got any comments to that? Of course, I understand these openers are better. Point is, isn’t it kinda, in some way, sort of, kinda a weird incongruency going on in the transition? I’m not exactly sure of what I’m asking for, but you try to figure it out;)
04/7/10 6:39 PM | Comment Link
Rockstar said...
2Hehe, I like you Bank Bank!
Yeah, I will post a great article about transitions in the end of the opener-series. You will learn what you need there. So don’t you worry.
You can open with anything, the key is how you follow it up, and I will give that to you in the post to come:)
It’ll be a little weird to jump straight into a thumbwar
I’m teaching natural game here, I want things to seem natural. So again, just pay attention to the blog and it’ll come right to you:)
Thank again for commenting pal!
04/8/10 11:38 AM | Comment Link