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The Confident Man

March 5, 2010 // 3 Comments »

Hey guys!

Ever heard about the confident man?

You have?

I’ll tell you about him anyway!

This is the man with all the girls around him. He’s the guy all the other guys are trying to impress and get recognition from. It’s something about him that makes other people react to him, that makes other people either want to be him or be with him.

Now how come this guy gets all this attention? Well, because he’s confident. That is one of the big things girls get attracted to – Confidence…

You hear the women say this all the time: I want a confident man!

Confidence comes from positive feedback. Confidence is the knowing of positive outcome or the lack of fear of a negative outcome. If you get burned you will stay away from fire. If you get rewarded (positive feedback) when you do a backflip, you will keep doing it. Right?

You have situational confidence which is confidence in specific situations. Like the pokerplayer who is feeling like a king when he is playing poker or hangs in a casino. Or the bartender who pulls girls when he is working at his own bar, but not when he goes to other bars.

And you have core confidence which is when people feel confident in general. They know and trust themself and know they can learn and do what other people can. If they fail they don’t quit because they know they will accomplish it as long as they don’t give up.

Let me tell you a bit more about our confident man. I love this guy. He is so sure of himself that I trust him too. Either he wants to or not he is a leader. Because people follow confidence. It’s a lot of  security in confidence. And what does women look for? SECURITY! She wants to feel safe with a guy.That doesn’t necessarily mean muscles, it just means a guy who knows what he is doing and has people on his side.

But ok, let’s take a closer look at his behavior:

He talks loud and clear.

He is used to have an audience. People wants to hear what he has to say and he knows it.

His body language is open and relaxed, he takes up room and he has a straight posture, head up high and leans back.

He is comfortable with attention, he wants to be seen and has no reason to hide. He’s used to people coming to him, not the other way around.

He has a smile on his face.

He’s happy. Why shouldn’t he be? The world is good to him, that is at least how he looks at it, that is why he is confident.

He is playful and has a good time

Everybody wants to have fun, and the confident man knows that he can make things fun at all times, because people find confident people funny. He’s so comfortable being himself that he’s not embarrassed over he’s  inner child.

He doesn’t brag or try to impress anyone.

Why should he? Only insecure people do that. He don’t care if people like him or not, he already got everything he need in life. He lives in abundance. He knows he is valuable and doesn’t need other people to validate him.

He doesn’t put girls on a high horse.

I already told you, he doesn’t care. His cup is already full, he has all the girls he need in his life and he know they fart too. They aren’t that special. They should put HIM on the high horse.

He says what he means

HE DON’T CARE WHAT ANYONE THINKS OF HIM! He doesn’t need people to like him.

He has boundaries

He will not let anyone walk over him, he know he can take care of himself, he respect himself and therefore others should too.

He takes action when he wants something

He knows that if he wants something he might as well go get it, because more often than not he will succeed. He might feal the fear when he’s approaching a girl, but he does it anyway. That’s the story of his life; when he feels irrational fear, he does it anyway.

He is not reactive

In his reality everybody that is worth knowing likes him, so why should he react to other people, they react to him. He knows himself, so he don’t care what other people say about him or think about him. Why would he try to get people to understand him? What is the point? That is not his problem.

He likes social pressure

He enjoys to be the center of attention. He gets positive reactions when he is, so instead of being scared of it, he wants it. It’s like he feeds on it.

He leads people and situations

He is used to be followed by others, he is used to people looking up to him and want him to decide the next step.

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Now why would I write about this amazing man on this blog?

Because I want you to become this man. This man is in you. You just have to let him out.

If you act and behave like a jerk, does that make you a jerk? Yes! You know why? Because you will feel like a jerk and people will treat you like a jerk.

If you act and behave like the confident man, will this principle still apply? YES! Of course. Motion creates emotion.What do you think will happen if you act and behave like the confident man? Women will be attracted to you! For sure!

Fake it till you make it!

Good luck champ!

PS! If you like this article you will probably love this one: How to really like yourself and build self-esteem.

Yours

RoCkStaR! <3

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