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Interview with Cosy (TheCostOfSuccess)

April 12, 2010 // 3 Comments »

Wohooo!

I got a brand new interview for you guys!

This is the most poetic interview I’ve done. Hehe. Cosy is interesting.

I asked TVA_Oslo, a Norwegian PUA, what he thinks about Cosy and he said he was very cool, and had mad game. I had to interview him. He’s one of the stars on MASF, and now he’s here, just for you guys.

He describes himself as a travelling Don Juan.

I’m a polymath, meaning I am a kind of renaissance man. Meaning I study
all things, skills, sciences, sports, philosophies, poetry..
Kinda like davinci, but a bit different, in that I’m a seducer.

I’m probably most skilled in martial arts, having 3 black belts..

I was popular in my days on forums because of my wild field reports, and
the fact that I pulled girls in seconds, minutes, sometimes without a
word.
The experiences I described sounded so out of this world, that some were
inspired, others were questioning.

Either way, I went around, and people said it was all for real.

I’m more than just seduction to tell the truth

Cool guy, huh?!

This is Cosy everybody! Enjoy!

How was your life with women before you started with structured game?

I’ve never been one to do structured game to be honest and I still don’t
do it now. I guess thats part of my appeal. This wild animalistic man,
whom looks into the girls soul and knows just how to make it come alive.
Its just that approach that makes me unique and alluring.

Before I started with women, I suppose my younger years, I was always too
nervous to make the move. I thought girls liked me, but never had the
courage to do much more than fleeting eye contact or an occasional smile.
Eventually though, I started talking to girls, but because people around
me weren’t that supportive ’say what? No! She isn’t interested in you..
like at all’ I went and did some things undercover at first. Just in
shopping malls and beaches.
I was a bit of a clutz, (a bit clumsy) and being nervous, my cheeks would
flush red and my voice would waver occasionally, when I was trying to be
confident and strike up good conversation. But before long I met some cool
people.

What is it like now?

Well, its hard to describe how my life with women is now.
Its like, I am constantly reminded by a mass of memories that are too hard
to remember all at once. Memories that flood my mind at times, too sweet
and too warm to not let a small smile rise upon the edge of my lips.

Its like I’ve seen another world, been something else.. And it always
calls me back. Its like Leonardo Davinci once said ‘Once you have flown,
you will forever more, live your life looking to the heavens, where once
you were a great eagle’

When I walk down a street, people may move out of my way, girls may
flutter their eyes. However, its more than that..
Its almost as if the world smiles back at me, and the way it can reach me,
is through small moments.

I can remember walking down the street and I felt horrible. I drew my coat
in tight, and let my hair fall infront of my eyes, as I looked down,
slipping anonomously through my tasks I had to do that day. And in a
moment, there was something in the air.. I didn’t quite know what..
I stopped and I turned, lifting my eyes, and there was a woman beaming a
smile, who took my hands.. And with that, I remembered again who I was…

To me, small moments like that mean everything.
I don’t so much remember all the faces quite like you’d expect..
Sometimes, what is immortalised in my mind, is a woman, whose gaze I only
caught once..

Life for me, after the touch of seductions affectionate hold, is all the
more beautiful for it. I am eternally changed, in ways I cannot say, more
than ones I can. And sometimes I fear, I am changed in ways only the
future will tell.

How would you define your game?

I wouldn’t define my game. I know it too well, and know its too alive to
really ever capture with just one sentence.
I actually treat it more like a little puppy. I feed him, play with him,
treat him cool, and then sometimes.. It just does things so far beyond
your imagination, without even knowing it yet, just smiling and panting,
wagging its little tail.
Most people can’t believe what they see me do, nor can they easily define
it. And in this same way, I also treat it.. And in that time it does
something really amazing, its often it feels so natural and so right, that
its like the impossible things happening, are what is normal and natural.

Some say, that my game, is a kind of purity that displays a window into
the way the world can truly be. Thats if they know it well enough..

Most people live their life, ASSURED that one thing is going to be
followed by another. There is no mystery in their world anymore.
However, to me, if I see a woman in a bar.. I don’t just see a good
figure, a dress, and an attitude.

I see the potential of a woman so great, that I could not even whisper but
what she is. So as I peer over to the woman, I do so with a knowing. A
knowing that perhaps behind those eyes lies something so much more.
So I draw her closer, I touch her skin, I kiss her lips, and in doing so,
see right through her, like a chilled mountain wind sees through the
caverns and valleys through which it flows.

In the soul of her eyes, in the caress of her breath, I see so much more.

Do you have a favorite technique or routine you use more then others?

Its true that most people use routines, and techniques. Perhaps thinking
there is no more to seduction than what meets the eye. So ofcourse the
only way to progress, is a technique, or another routine, or something
clever to say.
The cliche is ‘just say hi’.

Well, for me, I’m not going out to pick up girls. I take pleasure in a
womans presence, because of what it allows me to feel.
I can be myself with them, I can let out, all that is me, in those
moments, near her, with her, around her.
And I pay her in return, by looking into her, and seeing what nobody else
can.

As for techniques;

• Look out to the horizon
• Spin the girl
• Take her hand
• Pull her in a little closer
• Act like its the first time you’ve met her (especially if its not)

Old basics I’m sure.

If you could teach a guy three things to become a great seducer, what
would it be?

I was talking to a guy in a boxing gym, not too long ago, and he asked
‘What is the most common mistake.. Something you would say most guys do,
that is really stupid’.
I laughed and came in a little closer.

I began to speak with a hushed voice, indicating some sense of secrecy..
And I began to distract him with other things. For my tips.. Are things
you cannot simply just say..
They are things you can only whisper, even a feathers touch louder, and
they vanish, destroyed by the crudeness of thought and analysis.

So I began to tell him, that seduction isn’t something men should readily
get into, thinking that its about picking up girls. Seduction is something
that no matter what your choice is in life, marriage, monogamy,
polyamorousity, it can make it all the more richer.

I said to him, that in each case, each situation, a person would always
gain, from noticing a little more in small moments. So with a wife, or
women as a whole, just that glimmer in the eyes now and then. Just that
glow to the touch.. That is seduction, and it has nothing to do with your
choices of what to do with it.

As such, seduction is a very beautiful thing, and one of the greatest
things about it, is that you don’t have to do more of it than you want to.
Find the right girl, that will explore those moments with you, more than
others would… And you will find what we all look for, great or small in
the eyes of seduction. A partner, in whom you can trust, who would be
worth the power and life that you infuse in them with your touch.

Top three things, is they should relax, take advantage of the moment and
enjoy it, be in it to create a good experience for both parties.

What’s your view on seduction?

My view on seduction, is that there is another world within this one.
Something rarely seen, but just as true and as real as the one most see.
Seduction has given me insight into greater ways the world can be..
And has left me beyond inspired.

Its difficult to describe the painful love I feel for seduction. I’ve been
in relationships, and never have I ever felt this way about anything.
How cool is that!

I’ve heard you are a God when it comes to sexual tension… How do you
create sexual tension?
Before I came along, I’d never even heard of sexual tension. Now it seems
everyone is hearing about it. No doubt, directly filtering from my
influence, like a rivers flow from the highest point, where the rain falls
and inriches the land.
In a way, I’m grateful that I do not have to spread the word of something
so benificial to peoples lives, and am okay with the way it has spread,
but also there is a story to how I came up with the word and the concepts
inherent to it.

You see, sexual tension, as I have made it become, is far more than the
weak word it once was. Describing simply a moment of suspense in a movie.
For you see, it was something that to me, was unnameable for such a long
time.
For years I seduced women, without knowing what those moments were, or
even being capable of identifying them.

Sometimes I thought I was just being nuts, talking about it.
But generally, sexual tension flows, when a situation is more natural and
spontaneous.

There was one day, when I was walking across the other side of the street
from a drunk woman walking home. Watching over her, as drunk men pursued
her. Making certain she would not be raped, (as just weeks before in this
same spot, I had come across a rape and stopped it).
I felt like ‘oh come on.. not again..’ as I walked across the other side
of the street. I called the police, so they could take the situation off
my hands, and watched over until they arrived.
Eventually a woman passed me by, stopped.. Turned, and began to speak to
me, and we casually spoke for a while. It was just so pleasant because I
really appreciated her helping me get my mind off what I was doing and
make it all seem more casual.
Anyways, the police arrived, and I turned to her.. And in those few
moments, the first time I gazed down at her.. It was like something else.
It was as though distance no longer existed, as I realised how gorgeous
she was smiling up at me. How her breasts felt up against me..

We fell into each others kiss, and I was driven passionately, into her.
And we ravished each other, like I had never done so before.

That was the moment I really started to understand it, and named it sexual
tension.
IT WAS REAL.
I began to see all the moments before me, all the seductions…
And realised it was a common theme amongst all of them.

And with that, the invisible and elusive sexual tension, something that
most have felt but never thought of, was given its name.

Ok…interesting, I didn’t know that, but how can a guy create sexual tension between himself and the girl?

Its something I go on about in my book, so I don’t want to spill too many
details. Its also very VERY complicated and intricate. A great boxer
cannot simply teach such things with one sentence.
However there are small tendencies that arise as tension is being created
that might illustrate some things.
Like for example, edging in towards a woman ever so slightly, without a
feeling of forcing it, but an allure or a movement of the eyes or lips,
preceeding it.

Again its something I go into in my book.

Do you have any tips for guys who struggle with LMR (- Last Minute
Resistance)?

My tip with last minute resistance is to relax.. Hold a woman.. Enjoy each
others company, and if you both so happen to fall into a kiss. Don’t rush.
Relax.

I’ve seen you have this amazing book you have written. Please tell us
about it.

Well, the book is about how there are principles of seduction, that weave
together to make things attractive. Dynamic, adaptive, interconnected
principles, that do more than just make one attractive, but manifest the
very images and experiences we hold in our minds into reality.
These principles are in nature all around us, and with the book, I explain
the seductiveness of all things indirectly, and introduce people to the
true mystique of seduction.
Its my last words on seduction. I don’t give tips, or advice clearly
anymore, and thats because I did it all in that book.
I was just fed up with people asking me, haha, about my views on
seduction. I felt like a broken record, and still nobody understood.
So I wrote the book, so that people could understand like never before, my
views.
It is my last words on seduction. Or atleast.. The learning of it.
Within it, you will find touchings upon everything I would teach.

The funny thing about the book is.. It has in it things I never wanted to
reveal.. Secrets, hidden deep in my subconscious, from other things aswell
as seduction (being a polymath). These secrets, for a while confounded me
as to why they were there, and with them the book took on a whole new
life, and became mysterious even to me. I didn’t really want to publish
it. But in the end, decided to, on a knifes edge because I felt an ounce
more than my desire for secrecy, that for a few it would inspire them so
powerfully that greatness might be opened in their hearts.

I’m a sucker for beautiful things. And the sight and image of that lone
man or woman finding my book and having their breath taken away.. Well..
I figured..
Gah!
You got me.. I’ll let it out of my hands.

How can we get our hands on it?

Go to my website www.whatwefindattractive.com
There is a section there where to buy the book.
It will redirect you to amazon, inwhich you can buy the book from.
Its name is What We Find Attractive: The Mystique Of Seduction
By Taylor Truth.

This is it, as Michael Jackson would have said it. Any last words to the
readers?

The greatist advice I can give is.. Buy and read the book.
I’m not joking.
Get your hands on it.
Even if you have to sell your bike, auction something off on ebay.
You have no idea what that book is really worth. NONE and its impossible
to describe, until you have read it for the first time, and actually seen
it in ALL of its glory.

Kinda sucky for me as the guy that gets paid. But its impossible to
describe just what is hidden in those pages.

And as a final piece of advice. The way you read it matters.
The book itself, fluxes.. It changes, it ebbs and flows.
If you have the right mind when you read it.. It will be so earth
shattering to you, that you might just be spooked and find it hard to keep
reading.

However, if you go at it, with no care, clumsily reading only what shouts
at you, and not hearing the subtle whispers of interconnected meaning, you
will still find an interesting and kick ass read.

So the greatist secret is.. There is more to this book if you read it
right. And if you manage to do that.. You gain utterly priceless
information.

A book has NEVER been written like this before.

And also, since this is my last chance to say it.. I am looking for
remarkeable people. The kind that have something unbelievable hidden in
them somewhere, maybe they don’t even know it. So if you are one of them,
haha, don’t even know why I ask this, its unlikely to work, I want to hear
from you, contact me through my web.

Thank you so much Cosy! I would really like to meet you btw, coming to Norway any day soon?

I may always return.. But it is unknown to me whether I will return to
norway. However, if there are enough who will attend a meeting with me, or
a seminar, I would meet with those guys and give a brief talk and Q and A
for them. Any girls are welcome too. Couples aswell.
To get me to do that, its something I’d find fun if I had heaps of support
and encouragement. Like signing up to my website and contacting me, and
telling me you’d be interested in such a thing and encouraging me to do
it.

After all, I’m kinda like a puppy. Whip it, and it just looks all sad.
Encourage it, and wagging its tail, it happily gives.

Great! Check out his website for more info on the book.

Any questions to Cosy, or comments for the interview, feel free to comment! What? What was that question? Yes, of course you can rate the interview too!

<3 Rockstar

Posted in Cosy, Interviews of greatness

Interview with Jordan Harbinger

April 7, 2010 // 9 Comments »

Hey Hey you sexy people who like to read my interviews!

Today I have an interesting guy for you.

JORDAN HARBINGER!

If you don’t know about him you should start paying attention in school. The school of pickup that is.

This is what Wikipedia has to say about him:

Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert. In 2007 Harbinger co-founded The Art of Charm, a New York & Los Angeles based service company specializing in dating coaching for men and women. (…) He currently co-hosts The Art of Charm presents Game On on Sirius XM Satellite Radio.^[5] In addition, he co-hosts a bi-weekly show called the Pickup Podcast with AJ Harbinger.

This guy is very successful, he’s funny, super cool and has a lot to offer. I’m proud to have him right here for you guys. And just so you know, PickUp Podcast gets over 1,000,000 downloads/year!  Sick? I certainly think so!

Let’s get to it, shall we?

How was your life with women before you started with structured game, Jordan?

Before I started with ‘structured game’, so-to-speak, I actually had decent luck with women.  Namely, good-looking, nice girls, chose me to be their boyfriend.  That said, I never had choice with women, and once I was in a relationship, I would allow the girl to take control and I’d became needy, pushing her away from me.  I also had trouble making friends, as I was VERY quiet and shy.

Very quiet and shy no more, huh?

Now, I’ve got confidence like I’ve never dreamed of.  I have no problem making more friends than I can handle, and the networking skills that we’ve developed and teach here at The Art of Charm have skyrocketed our business more than I could hope to explain here.

How would you define your game?

My ‘game’ is super simple and very natural.  What we teach at AoC doesn’t require you to memorize anything and it’s more of a subtractive process (removing insecurities) and not an additive process (adding fake layers to your personality to make you more interesting to women).

You see a girl you’re attracted to in the bar. How would you pick her up?

I’d probably be talking to everyone I cross paths with in the bar and, if I’ve been there before, probably already know the bartender and other staff so may well be chatting with them as well.  Most of the time, women notice my presence in the bar and are drawn to it.  I tend to be pretty boisterous and charismatic due to having taught this stuff for so long, and often the women will come near me hoping I’ll talk to them.  If they don’t, I’ll simply carry on talking to everyone until she makes eye contact or comes my way.  If for some reason she’s not giving me any attention, I might just come right up to her and her friends and introduce myself or include them on my banter with others.  I essentially become so social that I can’t be ignored.  haha

Do you have a favorite technique or routine you use more then others?

Here at The Art of Charm we’re staunchly against routine-based ‘game’.  Having routines or developing a social persona to impress people is just like putting on a mask.  It drives a wedge between you and others and makes it MUCH harder for them to find and get to know the real you.  What we teach is how to UN-mask yourself so that your authentic side shows though much more clearly, which is naturally more attractive to others.

As far as a ‘technique’ for you guys to start ‘using’ right away, I’d say the key is to go out and be social with EVERYONE, ALL DAY LONG.  At work, your family, on the train, etc.  That way, when you see someone you’re interested in, you don’t have to “get in state” or try to “turn it on” and fight through the nerves.  It’s just like working out any set of muscles.  You want to go hardest when you’re already warm, not try to go from a nap to a full sprint.  If you stay social all day, you’ll be ready to go at a moment’s notice, namely, when you see someone you’re interested in.

If you could teach a guy three things to become a great seducer, what would it be?

1) Be social all the time.

2) Strive to be your authentic self, always.

3) Leave everyone better than you found them.  In other words, everyone should come away a better person for having crossed your path.

4) Go after your life’s purpose with passion -nothing’s more attractive than a man with ambition, purpose and drive.

Yeah yeah, that’s 4 things, but, as my grandma used to say, “tough kishka”. 

We teach all of this, and more, at The Art of Charm and on our show, PickUp Podcast as well.

Hehe, “four things” kicks “three things” ass! What do you think is most important when it comes to getting a girl attracted to you?

You have to be comfortable in your own skin.  Women can smell incongruence from a mile away.  If you go out with an agenda that says you’re going to “get 10 phone numbers” or “try to get a girl to come home with you”, people can sense it.  It shows through in your behaviours and mindset and comes across as creepy.  If you go out with the intent to have a good time and meet as many people as possible (both guys AND girls), and you simply put yourself out there and then “turn the volume up to 11”, people will naturally be attracted to you.  Be the party, bring the party, and others will join in.

Becoming comfortable with yourself is a process, and won’t happen overnight.  The rewards, of course, are well worth the effort.

Do you think looks is important to attract women?

Of course. Good looks and style are important to women, although women place less emphasis on these factors than men do.  I’m not going to sit here and tell you that looks are irrelevant, because they’re not.  We can make the best of what we’re born with, and, fortunately for us as men, there’s a LOT to work with in terms of charisma and charm that can take us to the next level and help us overcome any perceived disadvantages.

You have one of the most awesome resources for guys who want to learn to be good with women. PickUp Podcast get over 1,000,000 downloads a year. That is sick!  For the people who still haven’t checked this out, what is it all about?

Well, imagine having a mix of experienced mentors (dating coaches, entrepreneurs and other professional badasses) teaching you their expertise, packing decades of research, testing and tough lessons into a concise curriculum.  Basically, with PickUp Podcast, we’ve created one of the premiere men’s lifestyle programs available anywhere, and it’s free. This is the show we wish we had a decade ago.

What’s you favorite book?

“How To Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.  He’s the guy who started it all and all his stuff is amazing.

Ah, I love that book, my favorite too! We’re just about to cross the finish line…! Any last words to the readers?

I strongly suggest you guys get a steady feed of positive mindsets from solid mentors going so that you get pointed in the right direction.  A good place to start is here: http://www.pickuppodcast.com/best

There you’ll find some of the top-rated PickUp Podcast episodes that new guys really love.  From there, move on to the ‘toolbox’ episodes and start applying the stuff right away.

Thanks for having me on here. It’s been a pleasure!

It sure was a pleasure having you here too!

So guys, please leave a comment for Jordan. This is free value!

Next interview will be with a very special guy, called Cosy. Let’s just say the interview is special and leave it with that

Much love, ROCKSTAR

Posted in Interviews of greatness, Jordan Harbinger

Instructive interview with Ross Jeffries

March 20, 2010 // 11 Comments »

Oh BOY do I have a treat for you guys!

Oh boy oh boy oh boy…

I’m pretty excited about this. I sent a message to Ross a week ago and asked him if he would like to do an interview with me for you guys. You guessed it, he said YES!Not only yes, he would love to do it too!

For those of you who for some weird reason don’t know who this controversial person is; Ross Jeffries is the founder of Speed Seduction, a famous Seduction Guru and one of the main characters in Neil Strauss bestselling book “The Game”!

You know Darth Vaders famous quote “Luke, I’m your father”, well here’s another one for you; “Seduction community, I’m your father”. Hehe, he hasn’t said it himself, point is, Ross Jeffries STARTED the whole seduction community. Cool? Yes!

Find out how Ross approach women. What does he think about “The Game”?  What’s his top three advice and more in this interview.

Are you ready for this? READY FREDDY?!?

I had a little party at my house with a couple of friends of mine the other day. I’m standing in the bathroom doing my thing, when I hear Kristines girlfriend talking english in the livingroom. I didn’t think much of it, until my good friend Espen told me Ross Jeffries was on skype, ready for the interview.”Take your time, Fredrik, She’s doing a good job warming him up for you”.

When I got out there Ross were singing swedish; the themesong of Pippi Longstockings for the girls He told me he enjoyed visiting Sweden not so long ago and he loves Pippi. He’s very curious about Norway. He heard we had the prettiest girls on this planet…Can’t argue with Ross on that one. So after a little bit of smalltalk and fun, we started the interview.

Oh, you’re still ready are you? Btw, in the end of the interview I have a big surprise for you. I mean a HUGE surprise! Excited?! I know I am! “OKAAAAY, ROCKSTAR, QUIT STALLING YOU MORON!!”

Let’s get to it!

Oh, wait, are you sitting comfortable? The cup of coffee is still hot and the porn is turned off? Locked the door so nobody will disturb? Allright allright, I’m sorry, just checking. I want this to be a nice experience…jeeez.

I’m an asshole…

Here we go for real!

First of all, I just want to say how much I appriciate you taking your time to do this interview, it means a lot to me and the fans will love it! I know you are a busy man. One thing I’ve always been curious about is how you reacted to Neil Strauss book “The Game”. Did you like it?

First of all, I’m greatful to Neil for writing the book, I actually gave him the idea to write the book. We were at this hotel in Santa Monica and I said to him “you know what, you should really write a book about the game and the community” and he said he would talk to his editor about it. And the book made me famous all over again. I have so many friends and fans all over the world because of that and I hope some of them are reading this. I don’t think the book is entirely accurate, I think Neil took a few liberties. Not so much so we didn’t get the clear picture, but some of the characters, like Twotimer, was a combination of people to make it easier to write the book. And some of the things he said about me was exaggerated. Like when he wrote me saying “The price for betrayal, is dark beyond measure of your mortal mind”. I actually said it in a Darth Vader voice as a JOKE. I did it as a joke. And he forgot to mention that. But overall I’m very happy he wrote the book.

Me too!! Let’s move on. Tell me, how did you come up with Speed Seduction?

Originally I was looking for ways to solve my own problems, I was not attractive to women, I was afraid of women and had a lot of issues with approach anxiety. When I stumbled upon NLP I read a book by Richard Bandler and John Grinder and I immediately understood that I could use this to solve my own problems. This is back in 1987, probably before you were born! Hahaha!

I was born in 82!!

Haha! Anyway, that’s how I came up with it.

Cool. I’m guessing from the things you just said that you were pretty lousy with women…

That’s true. I got two girls into bed up until 1987, that means I was…uh…I was born in 1958, you do the math. I was nearly thirty years old. Two girls! Terrible. Really terrible.

Then you’re gonna love this question! What’s it like today?

Well today it’s a new reality, not just because I have mad skills, but also I’m sort of a celebrity. “The Game” and Facebook really changed it for me. Now I have female fans from all over the world. But I still mostly rely on game. And I have to say, I’m 51 years old and my last girlfriend who I broke up with, this beautiful swedish girl, was 21 years old. I get along with women under 30 a lot better. They’re so much more fun and vivid.

You see an attractive woman standing alone at the bar, ordering a drink. How would you pick her up?

Well, I don’t like bars. They’re too noisy, and I don’t like loud environments, but what I would do is walk up, I like to do a little preopener, I’d say…anything. First of all I would make a comment on the actual situation that is really funny. It all depends on the situation. A preopener can be anything, If she’s alone I could say “I’m wondering what you’re doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it’s not working on me.” And then when she laughs “You know, I’m glad you laughed, it shows you have a sence of humor.” It shows you have a sence of humor before you introduce yourself “my name is…”. Now let’s go through that opener. I walk up and I say”I’m wondering what you’re doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it’s not working on me.” Now that’s a really fynny way to pace her reality, cause the reality is there is no guys in there. I’m saying it in a funny way, so I’m getting rapport by pacing her reality, I’m showing her that I’m funny. And then there’s the next part I do. This part is really crucial to make this work. When I say “I’m glad you laughed, it shows you have a sence of humor” , what is that doing? It’s showing that I’m screening for something more then her looks, and that humor is important to me. I’m showing that I have standards. All of that is accomplished in the space of a minute. Women likes different vibes, and if you can show in the space of a minute that you have all the vibes, you’re halfway home.

So, how would you follow that up? Would you do patterns and stuff or…

There’s two ways I could follow it up: I could follow up with a question that is designed to open up her imagination and emotions, or I could follow up with a fun game. It’s a coin toss, 50/50, half the time I do the question, half the time I do the game. So the game will be something like this: “Let’s play a little quiz that I’ve learned. It’s called the Snack Quiz. Let’s see if we are snack compatible. Cause according to scientists, 98 percent of couples who get along are snack compatible. So let’s see. M&M’s or potatochips?” No matter what she answers, the first answer is always wrong. Then I say “Ok, but it’s two out of three…potatochips or chocolate bars?” We’re just testing to see how she responds to that. The reason I go for this is because women likes games. Women are conditioned to respond to games. The format or subject isn’t important, if it’s a quiz or game. So I could start with a game or a question. Now that question is designed to open up her imagination.

So the the question I like to ask is “You know, I’m really curious, cause I’ve found out I really learn a lot about people by learning what really grabs their attention. So  when you want to focus in, to give all you attention to do something you really love to do, what do you want to do? That question is designed to give her pleasure, and then I can play on that.

What’s your favorite pattern, when it comes to get the girl attracted to you?

My favorite pattern has to do with how I show up. What you do with your body, what you do with your beliefs, what you visualize in your mind, what you’re doing with your energy and vibe. So, 50 percent of this has to do with how you show up. Remember, patterns aren’t just language. So my favorite pattern is how I show up.

Great! I know some people think Speed Seduction is unethical, how do you look at it?

Why is it unethical for guys to systematically attract and please women? I don’t see that as unethical at all. Now here’s what unethical; using anyones system, my system, Mystery Method, Real Social Dynamics, you can use anything to hurt people. The system itself is neutral, it’s the way you use it. I actually believe that speed seduction is the most honest system, cause it doesn’t rely on pretending to be something you’re not. You don’t need platform heals, paint you fingernails or pretending to live a lifestyle you’re not. Speed seduction doesn’t rely on this, but it does rely on you being smart. If you’re stupid I can’t help you. Now why would I want to help stupid people breath…hehehe. Let them die out, you know

I’m just curious, is the girls there listening now?

No, they are out smoking…

Oh, I hate smoking! But ok, let’s continue.

How can a guy get to be really good at Speed Seduction? I’m guessing it’s about a little more then just memorizing patterns?

Immersion. You know when you take a bath and you get your whole body into the water, not just the tip of your toe? That’s it. Immerse yourself into it. Take my courses. Don’t just listen or read’em once, listen to them nonstop. Join my coaching program at rjcoaching.com, you can talk with me live four times a month for 1 dollar the first month and get your questions answered. Also surround yourself with other guys doing this. DON’T mix it with other systems. Speed Seduction doesn’t mix well with other systems. It’s like trying to take chocolate and put som shit in it.

Haha!

So don’t take the shit from other systems and mix it with the fine chocolate of speed seduction

Hehe, I like you Ross! Do you teach body language and how to speak and stuff too?

No, I absolutely teach training routinality, but more important I teach beliefs.Training your energy, training your vibe…

Yeah, cause the body will follow?

Exactly!

Train yourself to be strong and commanding, fun and spontanious, train yourself to show a deep understanding to the womens world and then finally train yourself when to show them your world. Cause sometimes women want to feel that they understand you better then any other women in the world. So sometime you have to reveal something from your inner world. Not all the time of course, but once in a while. I think one of the keys to women is emotional variety. Knowing when to be strong and commanding, when to be fun and so on.

If you could teach a guy only three things to be good with women, what would it be?

Number one, control your state. Learn to build in a confidence that doesn’t rely on being accepted or rejected.

Number two, learn to look differently at how women create their world. Womens emotions, like love, desire, connection, attraction, are not things, they’re processes that women do inside of their body. If you learn to look at processes and activity instead of things, you will be able to see these things in her and be able to link them to yourself.

Number three, of course, learn to use your language to capture and lead a womans emotions and open up those parts of her mind that are useful for seduction. And to shut down those parts that are not useful.

Really good answers. But Ross, what are you up to these days?

Well, I’m writing a new book! I haven’t written a book since 1988. It’ll be published in two months. I’m also gonna start doing seminars on persuasion you can use in marketing, speaches, sales and such. How you use it outside the bedroom for business and outside of seduction.

Interesting! Well, this is it, Ross. Any final words before we wrap it up?

I’d say this, no matter how bad things are for you, I’ve been there and over 22 years, tens of thousands of students of mine have been there too. You are not alone in your struggle, you’re not alone with your sticking points, there are answers too if you’re interested. It’ll be my mission and my honour and privilege to help you with this. If you’re interested go to rjcoaching.com.

Thank you so much for this, Ross!

One more thing btw, you should look up my Norwegian friend Joergen Rasmussen, he has written the best book written on NLP in twenty years, it’s called provocative hypnosis. You should check it out. He’s a brilliant guy!

Yeah, my partner Jakob also recommend that book. Exellent Ross! Good luck to you! See you in the summer.

Yeah, thank you, we’ll talk soon!

That’s it guys. Hope you liked it. If you want to check out Ross website to learn more about speed seduction click here.

Yours

Fredrik Worren Rockadoodlestar.

Oooooh wait, I almost forgot the big surprise!!

I promised you a surprise, a huge surprise. That surprise is for my norwegian readers though. Ross Jeffries, “Seduction community, I’m your father” is coming to NORWAY!!! This summer! 2010! This is not a joke! More info on this will come. Just be aware, your father is coming to see you

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