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These are the qualities women get attracted to

March 10, 2010 // 2 Comments »

Welcome friend!

Today, I though I should be nice and give you a little post about attraction.

There are some men who attract more women than others. And it is not because they have more digits in their bank account or because they have thicker and fuller hair than other men, but because they are proud holders of certain qualities women are attracted to.

I will go quickly through each of these qualities, and save the one I think is most important to the end. The day it went up for me how important this particular quality was, was the day I took my game to new heights and were more successful than I had ever been before.

I’ll try to keep this article as short and precise as possible. I want to go through the male qualities that I think is most important when it comes to attraction. There is other factors and qualities than I will mention here, but this is the most important ones.

Acquire these qualities and you will attract women like candy attracts kids.

These qualities are something that subcommunicates through body language and facial expressions as well as through what you say and actively doing.
Should we just jump to it then?

Follow me! Let me lead you through these amazing qualities girls love.

First out is …

* Social intelligence

Yep, this is a nice quality. This is unfortunately not something you can learn that easy by reading a text or hear a speach, but you have to learn it the hard way. Through trial and error by being social. It’s about understanding other people, understand that when you say or do A – B happens. Calibration. Empathy. It is as much about self-understanding as to understand the social game. Are many good examples of lack of self-knowledge in the more or less fantastic show Idol.

Social intelligence is something you learn by being with people, of communicating with other people. Being able to interpret the signals people send out, understand when you have made a fool out of your self and when you have done something right. The ability to read people, understand the emotion that is communicated. Degree of self-knowledge and level of understanding of irony and sarcasm, are two good ways to “measure” social intelligence. Typical features for people with poor social intelligence is precisely the lack of understanding of irony and sarcasm.

* Self-Esteem

Wasn’t exactly a bomb being dropped, was it? Ask any girl about what they like most in a boy and most of them respond self-confidence. Self-confidence is very attractive and one of the most important qualities you need to attract a woman. Without this, you are chanceless. You must believe in yourself, love yourself, for others to believe in you and love you. How can you expect that others believe in you if you do not believe in yourself? Self-confidence is something you have inside, but manifest itselves on the outside, through body language and actions. Self-confidence is about how you think about yourself. Believe in yourself.

Do not compare yourself with others. Find out who you are and what you stand for and trust in yourself, and you’re there. Easier said than done, but this comes with the right attitudes and ways of thinking.

* Social proof / Social Status

This is important. Who do you trust the most, one who is loved by many friends, or one that is out there alone without knowing anyone? If people see that others like you, they will be curious about you and have a positive attitude to you as a starting point. People notice how other people react to you and creates a picture of you on this basis. This is something all people understand more or less consciously. Therefore, we are all so damn afraid of not being liked. Therefore, we care about what others think about us. This effect can created in the venues by being very social and talk to everyone. After a while it looks as if you know the whole night club.

Check out this video about “lording”.

Very powerful to take advantage of this when you’re out sarging. Something that brings me over to Preselection, or being pre-selected by others. A huge part of attraction. Being pre-selected by other women is very attractive. You will get this effect when you are seen with women who like you, smiles at you and such.

Walk around with the ladies on you arm and show off a bit, this will make sets open up like [insert one or another analogy for the things that open up without a shred of resistance]. Are you in a bar with two women who tries to flirt with you, other women assume that you are THE MAN and will be attracted. As simple as that.  This is something I use a lot when I’m out. I open a set, take a women in each arm and wander around in the club to “show off”. When I open the woman I really like later, she will be attracted before I have time to say hello.

* The ability to cope with social pressure

This is alpha and omega. This is what pickup artists working on constantly. When you’re out sarging, social pressure will shoot in from all directions. It’s the feeling you get when someone considers you, judge you, looks at you. It’s about time to forget all about this. It’s about not caring what others think about you. If you get affected by social pressure all the time, it means you’re probably not a confident man. When women shit test you, it is to test you, to see if you are the cool attractive guy you’re claiming to be. The way they do this is by putting you under social pressure. For example, they may ask you to leave as soon as you open up your mouth, or they could ask you whether or not you have a big dick, if you can buy them a drink, watch their jacket and so on. If a girl is able to make you reactive, how the hell can you be strong enough to take care of her in the ugly world we live in? If you’re not affected by social pressure, it means either that you are crazy, or that you are a mentally strong person who knows who he is and not care what others think. You are steady as a rock. Approach anxiety = fear of social pressure. It is important to challenge yourself constantly. Do things you normally would not do. Sing karaoke. Allready singing? Well, sing karaoke sober then. Talk to an audience. Put yourself in the spotlight. Learn to love social pressure. That’s why women like men who stand out, both in a simplified way and socially, because it means they can handle social pressure. If you stand out you will be exposed to social pressures. You should not worry about what others think about you.

Test yourself on this. Jonas, a friend of mine held a spontaneous speech in the Parliament. Another one I know read a porn magazine on the train, quite openly, just to push themselves out of the comfort zone(I’m not saying that you must read porn and provoke people). If you do not do things that you are a little afraid of, you will not develop. Check this out, this is extreme in this area:

You wont develop yourself in your comfort zone. It’s about being comfortable in all settings. Can you do this, you have won. I repeat: Fuck WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU.

* The ability to lead

The main feature I would say is the ability to lead. What makes an alpha male in a wolf pack? Who fucks the most in a wolf pack? The alpha male! Be the leader and you get the ladies. Easy. Be the one who takes decisions, be the one with people around you who reacts to what you do. Leading is not just about being the one who makes decisions on a superficial level, there are many ways to lead. I know doormen who pulls women as hell at work, but not otherwise. Why? Several reasons for this, but one of them is that they are leaders when they are at work. People react to them. They have control and take decisions.

Control conversations

Lead conversations. It does not mean you should be the one who speaks all the time or that you should never let others talk about what they want, but be the one who controls the conversation. If you lose control, a great way towin it back is to ask questions. The one who asks questions is in control. Another tip is to soak people into your reality by talking about things you like. Enthusiasm always get the upper hand.

Teach the girl things

Teach the woman something new. This can be something as simple as teaching her thumb war. When you teach something you lead. Find something fun you can teach girls.  Something physical is good, so you can be a little dominant and get the kino(touch) going.

Lead women physically

Drag the girl around with you, show her places, introduce her to people. Take your arm around her shoulder. This is dominant behavior and most women responds positive to this.

Lead yourself

Show that you have control of yourself and your life. A man who can not lead himself can not lead others. Take care of yourself. Know who you are and what you want. This is perhaps the most important about leading yourself. Without this you will struggle to lead others. Who will follow someone who doesn’t know where to go?

Create situations

Be the person who creates things around you. Create hustle and bustle, interesting discussions, laughter and emotions in others. For example, when someone tell you a joke that makes you laugh, they lead your emotions. It’s pretty sexy.

Take responsibility

Take responsibility for everything about the adventure you and the girl have. Women like to say that things just happened. Do not put the responsibility in the hands of the woman.  If you ask the girl to come home with you, you give her the responsibility, which is not good. Just say “Let’s go” instead of asking. That is leading. Now assume that she follows, because you are a leader and leaders are accustomed to people following them. A leader is responsible. Do not put the blame on others, complaine or whine . You are responsible.

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Is this qualities of yours? Sit down and write down what you have and what you lack in these areas. Then write down what you can do to improve. The potential lies within you. You can be the man with these qualities. Now it’s not like you must have ALL these qualities to attract the ladies, but to be really good and attract the ideal woman as you probably want to do …you have to become… yes you guessed it –> the ideal man.

Remember, it’s not your body that is the primary tool to attract girls, it’s your brain!

Happy hunting

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