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The worlds best opener (Openers part 5/7)

April 18, 2010

Tags: Attraction, Openers
Posted in: Attraction, Openers/conversational starters

Hey guys…

If you read my last post about opinion openers, I’m sure you have been waiting for this one…

Good news, sir! It’s here

Before we go ahead. I just want to say that to focus too much on openers will be counter productive. If you rely on a canned opener to talk to strangers, you’re not where you want to be. But if you are a newbie, it’s genius to start with canned openers since it makes it easier for you to open and may also help you feel less nervous to approach. If you’re not a newbie but love to try new things, this is for you too.

One more thing … an opener will not give you the girl. The way you open is much more important than what you open with. Remember that about 80 percent of communication between two people is nonverbal. Your body language, your facial expressions, eye contact, your voice, how you feel, it’s extremely important to have this in place. Who you are as a person is what ultimately counts. The point with an opener is to give the woman a chance to talk to you. Give her a good first impression.That being said, some openers are better than others, and you get the best canned opener right now …

Are you excited? Motivated?

How about now?

Rockstar presents…:

The Do you know why you suck? opener.

(Inspired by the guy who inventet GM-style, Nathan S.)

ROCKSTAR: Do you know why you suck? (Push – break rapport)

HB: What? No … (You are guaranteed to get her attention, everybody wants to know why someone think they suck)

ROCKSTAR: Now I’ve been over here for five minutes, and you haven’t even said “Hi” once! * Smile * Are you shy or what? (Cocky funny – Pull + Qualifying)

HB: Yes / No / Haha whatever.

From here you can go straight into qualifying. Example:

ROCKSTAR: Other than being extremely shy, are you a nice and interesting person too?

You can be creative with this too. Are there more girls, you can address the entire group: Do you know why you guys suck??! If a girl passes you, you can grab hold of her (dominant=good) and say: Do you know why you suck? You were just about to walk past me without saying “Hello”! Are you shy or what?

Let me tell you why this opener is the world’s best. It is simply because it communicates all the right things. The opener is a push pull. You are a little cocky, but also funny. You’re very confident if you go around expecting everyone to say “hi” to you, even if it’s a joke on your part, and she understands it. Self-confident and fun. You stand out from the crowd and you test her, not vice versa. Done correctly, this opener will give you instant attraction.

Just try it out guys, it’s my favorite for a reason. Just remember to be serious when you deliver the “Do you know why you suck? I have been standing over there for five minutes and you haven’t even said hello!” – line. Then you smile, so she understands you’re not totally serious. Be confident! Follow it up with anything. To introduce yourself is a good start.

Next post in the opener-series will be about situational openers. This post will give you great tools to open situational. And situational openers are the most natural way to start conversations too, i know you like that. And hey, you will also get a little bonus in the end. The moral is; read my next post!

Much love, Fredrik aka Rockstar.